11/28/2025
I used to do this all the timeâŚďż˝and honestly, I thought it was the cutest thing ever.
Whenever we had something fun planned
a weekend outing, a trip, a visit somewhere
Iâd tell my kids days in advance just to see them get excited.ďż˝
And it was adorable.ďż˝
Those big eyes, the little squeals, the âyay!!!â energy⌠it felt like such a sweet moment.
But after learning more about child behavior and just watching my own kids more closely
I started noticing something I had completely missed.
ďż˝That âexcitementâ eventually turned into anxiety.
Especially with my youngest.ďż˝
She would ask about it over and overâŚďż˝get impatientâŚďż˝get irritated because the day âwasnât coming fast enough.â
And when I finally paid attention, I realized:ďż˝she wasnât excited anymore, she was overwhelmed.ďż˝
Because little kids donât understand time.ďż˝They only understand right now.
And hereâs the part I didnât expect:ďż˝my older two feel this too⌠just differently.ďż˝
They donât ask âhow many sleeps,â but in their own way they also stress when they know too much too early.
�So the approach with them has to be different too.
Now, this is what I do:
With my youngest:�I only tell her right before we need to get ready
like 10 or 15 minutes before.�Enough time to transition⌠not enough time to spiral.
With my older two:�I give more details and context, but only when things are certain.�If something is still unsure, I actually avoid mentioning it, because waiting for something that may not happen stresses them way more than not knowing at all.
Now everyone is calmer.�My kids enjoy the moment more.�
Thereâs way less anxiety around âwhatâs coming next.âďż˝And I feel less frustrated too.
Not sharing this to tell you what to do.
You know your kids better than anyone.
ďż˝Iâm just saying⌠sometimes the things we do with the best intentions end up affecting them in ways we donât even notice.
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