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AITA Reddit Conflict Resolution, 475 Progress Boulevard, Siler City, NC (2026)

01/02/2026

I (25F) recently lost my mother to cancer. Me and my brother (35M) are her only children. For the past 7 years, I’ve been staying in an apartment my mother bought. She always told me that when she died, she wanted me to have it because she worked so hard to ensure I always had somewhere to live. So when she died, she left me the apartment in the will. My brother has no issue with this, he makes more than enough of his own money and actually owns an apartment in the same building. However, my aunts (A and B) have an issue with this. A has had money issues for as long as I’ve known her and my mother was always helping her out with money when she was alive. B is financially stable, but in no position to help A. They both think that since I make enough money to be able to rent a place, I should let A stay in the apartment and rent my own because that’s what my mother would have wanted. I said no, stating that my mother wanted me to have a place of my own. I am currently saving all the money I would have used on rent and intend to buy my own house when I have enough saved. When I said no, they then suggested that I should share some of the money my mother left me with them. She had two life insurance policies, both of which went only to my brother and I. She also left us the house and her car. Basically, everything was split between my brother and I and no one else got anything. My aunts feel that this was wrong and that they, especially A, deserve some of the money. My brother blocked them all on platforms when they asked this of him and suggests I do the same, but I feel guilty about cutting off my family. But I also feel strongly that if my mother wanted them to get money, she would have left them something. But she didn’t. She chose to leave EVERYTHING to my brother and I. My aunts are saying that my mother did that because she assumed we would share. But I knew my mother. She would have told me if she wanted me to do that. All she said was that she wanted to die knowing that me and my brother would be able to support ourselves. So, AITA for not giving money to A or allowing A to stay in my apartment?

01/02/2026

My husband lost his mom when he was 4.5 years old. She was hit by a drunk driver and died instantly. At the time of her death she was pregnant and my husband's sibling died too. His dad remarried when he was 6 and a year later my husband was legally adopted by his stepmother. This wasn't something they discussed with my husband or asked for his feelings on. It was just something that they did and it had the full support of the adult members of his dad's family who felt that all children needed a mother and that he should be raised by her if something were to happen to his dad. There was bad blood between his mom and dad's family even before the two married. He never knew why and still doesn't. His mom's family has no idea and neither do cousins on his dad's side. The adoption is something my husband always resented and he never bonded with his stepmother. He never called her mom or sought out her comfort or love. He never loved her back either. As a kid he was a runaway a couple of times and when he was on the cusp of turning 17 he left and moved in with a maternal uncle for a few months before moving to his grandparents house. Once he was with them he asked for an adult adoption which they agreed to. His father and stepmother swore they were done with him after this but they always expected him to come crawling back begging for them to forgive him and love him. But he never has. He's had very minimal contact with them. And only because he's close to a few cousins on that side. They weren't invited to our wedding and were never notified when we started having kids. Our kids don't even know who they are even though they have seen them at a distance twice. We recently attended a birthday party for two of his cousins children and his father and stepmother approached me and tried to get me on their side to make y husband talk to them but I shut them down. Then they told me I was denying them a relationship with their grandchildren and that my husband is their son and I should be encouraging the relationship between everybody. I reminded them that legally he isn't their son anymore and I told my husband they wouldn't leave me alone. We tried harder to keep our distance because they were pi**ed but the two would not stop approaching me/us with their anger at my choice of words. So we told his cousin who was hosting that we were leaving and then the cousin kicked them out too. It started a fight between the cousins on my husband's side and the rest of the family and I was blamed. One of my husband's paternal aunts used a second Facebook account that she uses for her MLM crap and she told him that I had no right to be so rude to my FIL and MIL and it was insulting to rub his petty choice in their face. My husband blocked her second account and went back to it but even the cousins are getting crap over what I said. So AITA for saying what I did to them?

01/02/2026

Okay so based on title I totally sound like an a__hole but hear me out. So this year is our turn to host the family Christmas party at our home. We invited not only my SOs side but also my side as well. Overall it was around 20ish people in our home today for gift giving and typical American Christmas celebrating. Drinks were shared, food broken, the whole shebang. Amongst my SOs side of the family was his pregnant sister. She, I think, was due maybe a week or so ago? But really its just been ticking time bomb for her little one to arrive. Everybodys excited to meet the baby! Now our problem is that SIL came to the party with contractions and was obviously in labor (I know this because Im a mom myself - once you know, you know). Every 20 minutes or so she would start having pains and would make noises to pass the contractions. At first it wasnt so bad; I understand how sucky it is and you dont want to go to the hospital too soon because they'll just send you right home. But then it became almost obnoxious. I feel terrible for saying that but it really was. A lot of my family members and some of hers were glancing around like WTF? Go home and do that in private. After a while it became apparent that it was making everybody uncomfortable and even my MIL reccommend that she rest at home before it gets too late. She refused and said she was fine. In the middle of the kids opening their presents she went into pain again and this time she even screamed for a second. I then discreetly pulled her husband to the side and told them to leave. I did it politely ("Hey I appreciate you guys for being here but I think its time to go. I dont want you guys to give birth in our kitchen! lol"). After I said that her husband got angry and quickly got her and the kids packed up. She visibly upset and before heading out called me a b__ch and said that I ruined Christmas for her. A few of their sides family members gave me dirty looks and left soon after. Im torn on this: I wanted everybody to have a good day but it was very distracting and obnoxious to have her around. I feel bad but still. tl;dr -- I asked SIL to leave family Christmas party because she was in labor.

01/02/2026

UPDATE: Thank you all for the support. I’ve read all the comments and I sent an email to my ex friend’s husband letting him know that they will need to find a babysitter after the Covid restrictions are lifted. I had already changed the locks on my house after the birthday party thing. I sent her an email as well letting her know how hurt I was about her birthday. Her answer says it all. Her exact words are: “ I’m sorry you feel that way, it was a last minute decision to go out and I didn’t have time to phone you.” It takes 10 seconds to make a phone call. I’ve blocked her and I’m done. Thank you to everyone.i feel much better. Throw away account for all the usual reasons. My closest friend is going through a divorce and feels that I should be giving her free babysitting and free food because of it. She and her ex are living in the same house for financial reasons. She was spending more time at my house than hers because if it. She had been leaving her kids with me to go out on dates or with her other friends. This is going on 3-4 nights a week. She also are dinner at my house most nights. We never go out together because she is broke and I know it. She doesn’t tell anyone else how broke she is and lives on credit. Just before the whole Covid thing happened, she celebrated her birthday with her “besties”. She didn’t invite me. When I asked why she said she forgot. Then she said it was because she wanted to have a good time. She won’t explain what she meant by that comment. It really upset me. My feelings are hurt and I don’t feel I should put myself out anymore. She wants me to babysit her kids when she goes back to work and I won’t. She has never paid me before and I don’t believe she will now. AITA?

01/02/2026

My cousin recently invited me out for dinner to celebrate getting his first job. I was happily obliged, and also bought him a gift (a tie, very generic I know, but I’m just not good at gift giving). When I got there, he also invited 4 of his other friends. Not a problem, I went to greet him, we sat down, ordered, ate. The problem was when the bill came. He asked me to use my credit card, I said, “sure, just Venmo me your shares after.” He looked at me completely confused. He said he thought I would cover the bill because I’m the older cousin, and it’s a tradition for an elder to pay. (1), I’m only 1 year older than him and I’m not his elder. (2), I wasn‘t aware of this arrangement since he didn’t tell me beforehand. (3) he picked the restaurant, his friends and him ordered the most expensive things on the menu, and the bill came out to be around $400 excluding tip. Although I do have the money to pay for it, I was over the budget this month because I paid my yearly car insurance. Paying for this dinner meant I need to touch my saving fund. With all that is happening now, I can’t afford to overspend. I flatted out refused, told his friends and he that we would need to split the bill. Then, I asked the waiter to split the bill 5 ways. I paid my portion, gave him my gift, and then left. Well, this news didn‘t travel well in my family. My cousin said I embarrassed him in front of his friends. My uncle and aunty said I disrespected my family, even my grandmother was on their side. My parents said I should just pay because I have the the money. I would be less than a hassle. So, AITA? Edit: some people ask me why there’s 6 people and the bill was split only 5 ways. That’s because I paid for his meals as well. Regarding the tradition, it was supposed to be the older generation paying or fighting for the bill. He and I are technically in the same generation, so I don’t think the rule applies. I don’t know where he got that from to be honest.

01/02/2026

So I (21F) am going to be having a son soon(I’m a FTM- edit: means first time mom) and his name has been picked out for a long time. My (46F) mom doesn’t like the name because of a tv show (though that’s not why the name was chosen) because she thinks I’m “obsessed with the show” but it was my (24M) fiancé who chose the name. Mom absolutely refuses to acknowledge my sons name and keeps calling him something completely different. She told me she would call him this for the rest of his life and I had no say. Every time I tried to actually say anything about it, she would cut me off and say “I’m not calling him {insert name}, you’re just obsessed with that show. You’ll change it when he’s born anyway.” So I yelled at her that she will call my son by his name, no matter what she thinks, as I do not want my son to be confused as to why he is being called a name that isn’t legally his. My mom then called me an AH and proceeded to tell other family members who also called me an AH. So I’m wondering if I’m being a big AH or am I not? Edit #1: sons name is Samuel. Edit #2: my mom wants to call him Tony/Toni. Edit #3: FTM means First Time Mom. Edit #4: FTM is for First Tim mom in my post because I got it on a MOMS Reddit forum so that’s just what I used. I didn’t mean disrespect. I get it, it also means Female to Male but I already specified that this is not the case for my post. Again I do apologize though if I offended anyone. Edit #5: I’m not changing the acronym. It’s been around a long time but it’s less used because of LGBTQ+ now. I’ll clarify what it means at the top but I’m not changing it when it’s widely used in Mom reddit forums. Thanks for reading.

01/02/2026

I’m training for a marathon, and I was doing intervals on a treadmill at the gym in my apartment the other day. My apartment gym is small–there are only 3 treadmills–but it works for what I need, since I basically only use it if the weather prohibits me from running outside. Of the three treadmills, the middle one is my favorite. It is newer and smoother, and the console is higher. So on that day, I was doing my 5’ on/1’ off intervals on the middle treadmill when these two people got in front of the treadmill to get my attention. I thought it was an urgent matter, so I took one headphone out, but they just asked if I could move to one of the side treadmills. They said they wanted to run next to each other and asked if I could move to one of the treadmills on the side. I said no and put my headphone back in. I thought that would be the end, but they stayed in front of me, waving in front of me and nagging (I couldn’t hear their exact words through my headphones). When I got to my rest period, I asked what was up. They asked why I wouldn’t move and I said “I’m doing intervals.” They looked at me confused and said I could just move and it would take like five seconds. I told them if they wanted this treadmill they should have gotten here before I did, and to stop bothering me. I didn’t have the necessary breath to explain this, but since I was doing very strict interval training that was programmed, I couldn’t interrupt it. Also, it would just throw off my vibe. Also, the middle treadmill is my favorite, and I was there first. When I got to the lobby, one of the girls was waiting for me. She told me I was very rude and that I should be banned from the gym for my conduct. I was like, “Girl, it’s a treadmill. It’s not that deep.” She said I was lucky she didn’t film me and get me in a Joey Swoll video (mind you, I’m a girl, too). At this point, of the guys working the front desk came up and asked if she was bothering me (she was getting very heated and I was staying calm). I said yes. He told her to leave me alone or he would call security. The girl begrudgingly left. When I retold this story to my friends, all my running friends were fully with me. One of them was like, “interrupting someone’s workout should be a felony.” Some of my non-running friends, however, were a bit on the fence. Some of them think it was rude that I didn’t give an explanation (I was out of breath because I was doing intervals). One of my friends also brought up a point that while I’m a runner and I use the gym for sport-specific training, most other residents probably use that gym more casually, and it’s not fair for me to expect them to meet the same gym standards and I should have just moved, or at least explained. Was I an AH for not moving?

01/02/2026

My boyfriend (M, 28) and I (F, 26) have been living together for a few years. Both his and my parents live in different countries than us. Christmas is extremely important to his parents so they come every year. We never invite them or ask them to come - they just inform us when they booked their flights and hotel. This is not an issue at all as we get along great and they understand when we need time for ourselves (they mostly stay for 2 weeks or so). This year they also told us that my boyfriends grandmother will be enjoying. Again they didn't ask and just informed us that she will be joining. I have never met her before but she is a sweet person so also no issue. We found out that one of our closest friends who we love dearly cannot celebrate with his family this year and would spend christmas Eve the 24th alone (which is when we celebrate Christmas in our country). So we invited him to spend Christmas with us. The plan was to exchange presents with the family first (since that might be a bit awkward for him) and then invite him to join us for dinner and games. We then told my boyfriends parents and they went crazy, asking how we could do this to them and that they would never spend Christmas with a stranger. I then told them that we can invite whoever we want to spend Christmas in our house and that we will not leave our friend sitting home alone on Christmas Eve. They insisted on uninviting him which is when I told them they can either celebrate with all of us or go celebrate Christmas somewhere else. AITA? Edit: thank you all so much for taking the time to comment your recommendations and kind words. You helped me a lot in standing my ground to talk to each of them about it. I hope you can all spend Christmas with someone you love and loves you and wish you a lovely time ! Edit: your comments are hilarious, thank you for making me and others laugh (:

01/02/2026

My SIL has always called me a disgrace and talked about how “men are providers” she has repeatedly told me this and tried to shame me for having a better education and job than my husband. My husband family is Mexican immigrants and my SIL lives in Mexico and has a Mexican husband. She recently fled the house looking for someone to stay with. My in laws live in another state but my sister with her 3 children came to us instead. We live in a small house in San Diego that was my grandma’s. My in laws live close to Houston. My husband was not home when his sister arrived and I sent her away when she showed up on my doorstep I told her to go find another provider because I’m not it. My husband heard and came home from work and I told him that he had to pay for her hotel and plane tickets out of his money to our inlaws place. He and his familyhave been pi**ed at me. His sister has constantly bullied me for over ten years for dumb ass things like “not making my man a plate” I have never liked her or her ex. I do not want her in my home and I wasn’t having it because she has no damn money because of her own stupidity of being a “wifey” I refuse to support her and now my husband’s family is saying he should leave me and stay in Houston. I told him he can choose his sister over me and if he’s not back in 24 hours I’m throwing his s__t on the street and letting the homeless take it.

01/02/2026

My ex and I (49M) were married for 2 years and had a daughter before I discovered her affair. But she took her own life during the divorce. I stayed close to my in-law because I didn’t want to take away their granddaughter. But that was a mistake because they secretly hated me and were turning my daughter against me. By the time I found out, it was too late, and daughter hated me. She was fighting with me, broke many things in the house and ran away multiple times. I tried to explain to her what happened, but she wouldn’t believe me. My family also tried in vain. At one point, I couldn’t take it anymore and let her go live with her grand-parents and she cut all contact with me. After a year of waiting, I had enough and moved to Canada to tried to rebuild my life. She was 14 when I left. Recently, I learnt that my father passed away and I wanted to fly back. But my brother told me that my daughter would be present. Apparently, as she grew up, she understood many things and realised her grandparents were lying. She cut contact with them and was rebuilding a relationship with my brother and father. They didn’t let her contact me because I was still in a bad place. And frankly, I’m still am. I’m not sure I want her in my life again. I know she was just a kid back then and now she is an adult (22F now). But even with that, I’m not sure. I need advice. Edit: I am quite surprised by the replies. I asked for help with my daughter and what I get are attacks to my manhood. It is quite funny when I receive messages of people insulting me and telling me to grow up when theses people are reaching out to me and insulting me because they were displeased by my story (a story they saw on internet too). The adult thing to do would have been to simply not reply. Thanks to those who provide answers and support. I really appreciate it. Anyways, I called my brother back and we agreed that we will try to repair our relationship after the funeral. For now, we will mourn my father.

01/02/2026

UPDATE So, I got into Cornell last week. Honestly I think it was fluke. I’m not smart, at all. I got a 28 ACT, a decent GPA (because my school grade inflates considerably). I had some decent extracurriculars but nothing remotely competitive enough to get me to a school like Cornell. But anyways... My twin sister is the opposite of me. She’s a GENIUS, she has way more impressive stats (34 ACT and she only took it once, compared to my 3 times), she has way better grades, way cooler extracurriculars. Everyone always looked up to her as the smart one. I didn’t and still don’t mind, it’s true. The only reason I can fathom I got in and she didn’t is that she applied to the engineering college while I applied to Arts and Sciences (I don’t know if too many of you guys are familiar with Cornell, but they have a bunch of different colleges you can apply to, each with their different admission criteria). Well last week, decisions for ivies came out. Unfortunately for my sister, she didn’t get into a single one, including her first choice (Cornell). She checked as SOON as it was available and called me bawling. I consoled her and told her everything was going to be okay, that who cares what school you go to, that she was brilliant and was going to be successful no matter where she goes. Well anyways, I pretty much resolved that I was getting rejected, so I didn’t even bother to look at my email until later that night. Well, I guess surprises do happen sometime, because I’m a Cornellian. I got in. I just don’t know how but I did. I really want to go guys. But this would devastate my sister. All week she’s been crying and solemn and sad. She’s been angry at her friends who got into top schools (especially the ones with lower stats). She’s decided to go to NYU, but she just hasn’t been herself. I haven’t told our parents (I think they assumed I didn’t get in because she didn’t). Am I being selfish? Should I just go with her to NYC? We always thought we were going to school together but like... it’s Cornell. I couldn’t in a million years imagine I’d get in. I’ve been researching obsessively about it and I can’t shake the desire that if I don’t go, I’ll regret it. Ithaca looks beautiful, it’s a small town (which I would LOVE to get away with from the huge city that is New York). It seems like a dream opportunity. Am I being a bad sister? I KNOW she would be upset; we were supposed to go to school together. It would crush her. I really don’t have anyone else to talk to :(. AITA for going to her dream school? Especially considering how much harder she’s worked compared to me... TLDR: dumb sister (me) gets into Cornell. Smart sister didn’t. She’s depressed. It was her first choice. I want to go tho. AITA? UPDATE: so everyone here told me that I should go, so I decided to tell my sister. Well, she started screaming from excitement and got (not actually) mad that how couldn’t I tell her earlier and she’s so proud of me But seconds later, her excitement just turned to....sadness. She went from like super giddy to depressed in like seconds,, and she started bawling. Like uncontrollably bawling. I tried to comfort but she pushed me away and locked herself in our room... I going to give her some alone time right now and we can talk more about it later. Update 2: Please let me know if my updates are annoying; I only expected 3-4 comments and didn’t know so many people were interested, so I thought least I could do is update So after 5 mins of the previous post,...

01/02/2026

I [f21] live with three roommates in a shared apartment. We all have our own bedrooms but share a kitchen/dining room area and two communal bathrooms. One of my roommates Bianca [f23] has started hosting this art club in our apartment. I don't fully know what they get up to but they gather in our dining room every other day at 7pm and talk and watch TV until 10pm then they all go home. Whenever I walk into the kitchen, Bianca and her friends stare at me awkwardly and make it obvious they're waiting for me to leave. Bianca asked me via text to not 'interrupt' her club. I told her that's unreasonable and that I pay to live here too, and I want to go into the kitchen and make my dinner. She said I'm too loud when cooking and that the noises of the sizzling, stirring, etc are distracting. She asked if I could cook my dinner before the club starts. I told Bianca that's tough and that she doesn't get to order me around. She said I should be willing to compromise and that I'm being unfair, and whined about how important the club is to her. I told her to p__s off and that I'm not interested in discussing it again because I'm not changing what time I eat my dinner for such a silly reason. Bianca is now really angry at me and said I was bullying her and being a crappy roommate for not compromising. I think she's acting weird and controlling.

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