11/02/2025
My 12.5 year old dog is dying
***trigger warning *** pet death
Our dog, Leonidas, is 12.5 years old. He recently fell on some stairs and tore a tendon in his knee. He's already had surgery on the other side.
Our vet has recommended we just give him a good last few days/weeks, and then humanely euthanize him.
He doesn't think we should put this lovable toasted marshmallow through anesthesia and recovery from another surgery, due to his age and condition.
It's been a hard few days, thinking about what to do.
I have to be honest, I did not expect this decision to hit me quite this hard.
Leo has been with us through 4 moves, 3 kids, 4 houses, 2 deployments, 1 remote tour (my husband lived in a different country for an entire year), and the pandemic. Leo has been my constant companion even when I didn't have anyone else. Leo has protected me from an attacker who tried to break into our hotel room once.
On walks he loves to protect and herd our children. He doesn't know how to herd or why he's doing it, but he has to be with his squishies (what we call the kids). When they leave for school he whines to go with them.
He loves my husband too. He lays by his feet when my spouse comes home from work and doesn't move for an hour like he can finally relax from protecting us because dad's home.
He loves to go get the ball and to NOT give it back. He loves to chew on antlers and buffalo horns. He has to have filtered water or he gets an upset stomach. We call it his bougie water. He doesn't bark or howl. He whines some, and every once and a while we get an excited single "woof." He's so calm that we had him trained as my companion animal. He used to help me when I fell down (I have herniated disks in my back).
We got him from a shelter after he had lived there for 7 months, unable to find a forever home. He found his forever home with us.
But now, we're near the end. How do we make the decision, "okay, he's in too much pain, we have to say goodbye?"
I've never been through this before as an adult, the choice.
A couple of years ago our other dog lost his mind for a second and bit our then-three-year-old in the face. We had no choice, we had to surrender him and the state put him down.
This is different. We have to watch and wait. We have to give him the best life possible while we can.
We're going to get him a steak or two, take him for car rides and to watch the other doggies play at the park. We're going to make sure he leaves us with love.
I guess I'm just writing here because I hope someone knows more than I do and can tell me they did this before or that other people understand.
I feel alone because my husband is very practical, so he sees it much more clinically and less emotionally than I do.
Any advice is welcome. Thank you.