04/29/2025
Friends and Neighbors of Chatham. Please place your blame before facts towards helping all families in despair and grieving.
Sharing guidance about emotional support for Chatham families from this contributor, Mr Walton.
There will be a huge outpouring of support, but in time that will fade.
These families will forever be changed and be different moving forward.
Some notes and tips from a grieving parent.
1. Say the thing.
Do not be afraid to speak to the families. Yes it may hurt, yes it may be uncomfortable for you and them. But nothing hurts worse than being aleinated or ostracized on top of loosing a child.
2. Understand that BOTH parents will need support. Lots of folks will stand beside mom, rightfully so. But dad is grieving too, don’t forget him. Don’t assume he can handle it at all no matter what he “shows” you.
3. Siblings.
Siblings won’t understand. They will ask many many hard questions. Be honest and caring while being age appropriate. Realize there forever playmate has just vanished and they can’t find them. It’s the worst hide and seek.
4. Food.
They will need food. Lots of it will go to waste, but you never know what they will eat, when they’ll eat, of how they’ll want to eat it.
5. Main contact.
Try and set up one person to be the main contact for the family. Blood or not, this job will be hard. You are going to be the face and voice of reason. Let the family have their much needed privacy while you tend to their other affairs. Mail, social media, errands help with other siblings if there’s are will need lots of attention.
6. Media.
Understand they will reach out and want to talk. They want to share your story, but only do it if you want to. Don’t let peers or the public force or guilt you into it.
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Other people will be grieving and effected by this in ways that could be as bad or worse While a family is dealing with the loss, theres a first responder that didnt sleep last night because of the images forever burned into their memory. They will carry that forever. There will be playmates, co workers, the folks at the facilty who are going to be traumatized and wounded as well. Dont forget them.
I could go on and on. But I hope you get the points of these.
Be strong Chatham.