09/02/2025
We don't have the "perfect" relationship.
But we are always trying to improve.
And while the "perfect relationship" (as we define it) is both the goal we strive for while at the same time being unattainable, it doesn't mean it isn't worth working towards.
Yes. We fight. We argue. We make mistakes.
The difference is, to us, that isn't what makes a relationship "bad".
It's more of, "are you actively trying to minimize those moments and maximizing the extraordinary ones"?
And, most importantly, when the hard times happen, is there space and grace for one's Self as well as the other?
Is there forgiveness? Is there change?
Do you see these not as issues, but as opportunities for growth, both for the individuals but also the relationship?
As a lot of you know, we are together 24 hours a day.
We wake up together. We work side by side in our business together (most times 18+ hours a day 7 days a week), we go to sleep together.
Literally everything. Yes, on purpose. Lol.
We have literally only spent three nights apart our entire relationship.
The first, our wedding night (and i stayed on the phone with her ALL night).
The other two I was in the hospital, and she was running our company (and a lot of our requires over nights).
We genuinely just love being with each other and just work better together.
We like to say, we are not codependent. We are symbiotic.
We get asked all the time how we could be together so much or how hard is it to work together.
So, I wanted to share a few things we do, that will improve (at least in my opinion) any relationship:
1. We are always best friends first. Then romantic partners. Then business partners. In that order. Always.
2. Treat your relationship as if it's a child. Nurture it. Grow it. Teach it. Care about it. And most importantly love it. Not like you love an item or an experience, but unconditionally as if it's a part of both of you. Do it FOR the relationship, not just for your self or the other person.
3. Seven minute snuggles & "Two-year" hugs. We always make time, every day (some times multiple times a day) to cuddle on the couch or bed for 7 minutes. To be present together. And to touch. Sometimes we talk. Sometimes we don't. Either way, we connect. The Two year hug: Research shows that if you "meaningfully" kiss your spouse before work it can add two years to your life. So, every day before we start work, we add two years lol.
4. Lastly, define what a perfect relationship looks like and communicate it. Then wake up everyday going after it. Make more reasons to achieve it and less excuses for failure. And, know that the "perfect" outcome may change. You might change. And that's OK.
It's never about the destination and ALWAYS about who you ride with and who you both become along the way.
Anyway. I say all that to say, I love this woman. In this life and all others.
Til death is for quitters.
She's my best friend and my partner in life and in business.
While I told her in person a few days ago, it bares repeating:
Happy birthday, Bug.
Thank you for choosing to do this life with me again. I'm sure I convinced you this incarnation would be fun and easy lol.
Thank you for going with it.
I love who you, and who WE, are becoming together.