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11/21/2025

Terrible advice? Maybe not terrible… but definitely not the whole story.

Because it’s never just the laundry that waits.
It’s everything.

When I put things off:
order waits and chaos moves in,
meal prepping waits and poor choices win,
goals wait and motivation slips,
and eventually…
my whole life starts waiting.

I said I wanted to slow down — to do less, to focus on what matters, to make space.
And someone told me, “the laundry can wait.”
Well-meaning.
But I’ve lived that advice for years… and I can’t say it helped.

Because “letting things wait” became saying yes to busyness,
losing my boundaries,
ignoring my limits,
and drowning in a pile of “shoulds.”

I don’t need everything to wait.
I need to choose what matters on purpose.

Send this to a woman who’s done putting her life on hold 🤍
If this landed, keep this space close, we’re choosing what matters on purpose now.

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11/20/2025

Most nights, I make one thing for me and Ryan… and a totally different dinner for the kids.
But honestly? We’re all getting older and I’m the only one getting more tired.

So things are changing.

Some nights we all eat fish sticks and mac & cheese.
Other nights, my kids suffer through chicken with “mom’s mystery sauce.”
Balance, right?

If this is your house too, you’re in the right place. Pull up a chair.

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This morning, I realized I am the safe place I never had.The one who listens instead of silences.The one who softens ins...
10/27/2025

This morning, I realized I am the safe place I never had.

The one who listens instead of silences.
The one who softens instead of shames.
The one who shows up — even when she’s tired.

I used to look for that safety everywhere else.
Now I’m learning it’s something I can be.

It’s wild to realize that the version of me who once felt unsafe inside her own skin
is now the one holding that safety for my kids.
For myself.
For the woman I used to be. 🤍

If you’re still learning how to trust your own calm after a lifetime of walking on eggshells—
I see you.
You’re doing sacred work.

The reasons I chose to homeschool aren’t what most people think.Not because I hated the system.Not because I had it all ...
10/23/2025

The reasons I chose to homeschool aren’t what most people think.

Not because I hated the system.
Not because I had it all figured out.
And definitely not because I thought I could do it better.

It was something quieter and scarier.
A pull I couldn’t explain.
A knowing that whispered, “This is yours.”

I had no teaching degree.
No roadmap.
Just an ache that said, You’re meant to do this.

It terrified me, but I trusted it anyway.

And on the other side of that fear, I found things I never knew I’d been missing:
☀️ unhurried mornings
🎨 creativity that leads, not compliance
🕊️ 16,000 extra hours of ordinary magic I would’ve missed
and a second education—the kind that changes you from the inside out.

I didn’t choose homeschooling to protect my kids from the world.
I chose it because something in me knew
I needed to become the woman who could do this.

My kids didn’t get a mother who had it all together.
They got one who was becoming
not one who was playing it safe.

If you’ve ever followed a quiet knowing that made no sense at first; I see you.
Sometimes the scariest callings are the ones that grow us the most.

The biggest joke I’ve played on myself? I desperately want to be seen, but the moment someone actually sees me, I run ba...
10/20/2025

The biggest joke I’ve played on myself? I desperately want to be seen, but the moment someone actually sees me, I run back to the shadows.

I learned this as a kid. When being visible meant being exposed. When taking up space felt dangerous. When my presence felt like something I had to earn or apologize for.

So I made myself small. And I got really, really good at it.
Now as an adult, I’m unlearning that pattern. But some days? The instinct to shrink is still so loud. To minimize. To disappear. To make myself smaller so others feel comfortable.

I’m learning that I don’t have to do that anymore. That my presence doesn’t need to be earned. That being seen isn’t the same as being exposed.

But it’s hard. Really hard.

What patterns from childhood are you unlearning as an adult? I’d love to hear what you’re working through.

Everyone had advice.Everyone had an answer for what I should do, who I should be, how I should feel.But none of them had...
10/13/2025

Everyone had advice.
Everyone had an answer for what I should do, who I should be, how I should feel.

But none of them had my story.
None of them lived inside my body.
None of them knew the cost of what I’d already carried.

Wisdom came quietly—
when I stopped trying to fit their answers into my life
and started listening to what my own voice had been whispering all along.

💛 Save or share this if you’re learning to trust yourself again.

If you had to grow up too fast,you probably still feel safest when you’re busy.When there’s something to manage, fix, or...
10/12/2025

If you had to grow up too fast,
you probably still feel safest when you’re busy.
When there’s something to manage, fix, or hold together.

You learned to read the room before you could even read yourself.
You learned that calm could mean danger.
That silence could mean someone was angry.
That love might disappear if you stopped earning it.

And now, even when life is gentle,
your body still braces.
You feel the quiet and start preparing for the noise.
You wait for the other shoe to drop—
because once upon a time, it always did.

But healing changes the story.
Healing teaches your body a new rhythm.
That stillness can be safe.
That peace can stay.
That you don’t have to be on guard
to be worthy of love.

You can rest now.
You can soften now.
You can grow at the pace you always deserved.

💛 Save or share this if you or someone you love is learning how to stop bracing for the worst.

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