11/16/2025
DEAR MISS SOCIETY - by Miss Prudence Fairchild
Manners are like corsets—out of fashion in some circles, but still quite effective when properly applied. Here, we revisit the customs that once held society together, with nary a snap out of place.
Dear Miss Society: I have been gifted a pair of dainty lace gloves, but I fear they will provide little warmth on a brisk autumn day. Must I sacrifice comfort for elegance?
Dear Reader: Elegance often demands a degree of fortitude, but one must not fall victim to fashion at the expense of sensibility. Lace gloves may lend an air of refinement, but they are no match for an autumn chill. A lady of both taste and practicality might don them for appearances, only to discreetly exchange them for something more substantial when necessity demands. After all, frostbitten fingers are far less becoming than a well-chosen pair of warm gloves.
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Dear Miss Society: At a fall wedding reception, what is the proper way to handle conversations if there is background music that might be slightly louder indoors?
Dear Reader: When the strains of background music begin to edge into foreground territory, one must adjust without descending into theatrics or table-side charades.
Lean in slightly, speak with clarity, and resist the urge to shout as though announcing train departures. Should the music truly hinder conversation, it is perfectly proper to offer a gentle smile and suggest continuing your chat during a quieter moment—perhaps over dessert or near the coat check, where violins dare not tread.
Above all, avoid exaggerated gestures or dramatic sighs. A true lady or gentleman never blames Chopin for a social stumble.
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If your hat tips too far or your hemline too high, Miss Society answers with a well-arched eye.
Send your social snarls to Miss Society—where manners matter, and missteps are mildly mocked. [email protected]
