04/16/2026
From my inbox she needs advice
Hey, I really need your honest opinion on something.
My grandparents left money for all of us to help us start our lives. But instead of giving me mine, my dad used it for his own investments. In the end, I only got about $3,000, while my siblings and cousins received much more.
Now he’s doing well for himself—he’s debt-free and even owns a home—while I’m still trying to find my footing. It’s been hard not to feel some type of way about it.
Because of everything, I decided to distance myself from him. He hasn’t been part of my life for years and has never even met my kids.
Recently, he reached out saying he wants to be involved in their lives. I told him I’m not comfortable with that, especially since he never made things right about the money. He said he doesn’t have it anymore.
My husband thinks I might be too harsh, but I honestly don’t know how to move past it.
Am I wrong for feeling this way?