Unpacking.your.ish

03/25/2023

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03/19/2023

Hello, Unpackers! A new season has begun! Join Reese and Tae as we learn to “normalize” some new topics. Episode one is available now! Link in bio and below! Take some time, listen and enjoy! As always any fees back you have to offer is appreciated and wanted. Thank you for listening and as always, unpack your ish! https://anchor.fm/unpacking.your.ish/episodes/Unpacking-Normalizing-Intimacy-e1vi897.

01/28/2023

Posted • May a soft pillow be there. Rest and community care will save us.

01/26/2023

Posted • Approach dating and relationships objectively (as much as you can) and collect relevant data along the way.

People reveal A LOT about themselves in the beginning and over time.

⭐️ Pay attention to the consistent behaviors over time.

⭐️ Understand that what you see is what you’ll see more of.

Don’t make excuses for unacceptable behavior. AND everyone has bad days, for sure.

You’re not looking for perfect - there is no such thing - you are looking for good enough IN ALL the RIGHT WAYS.

➡️ Are you paying attention to their patterns and making informed decisions based on relevant DATA (not just feelings)?

➡️ What’s your pattern? And is that working out for you in terms of building connective relationships?

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01/26/2023

Posted • When you are in a long-term relationship, you won't feel perfectly happy every day. "Inevitably, differences and disappointments will happen, and you should discuss them with compassion and loving-kindness," advises therapist Andrea Brandt, Ph.D. Dr. Brandt adds that practicing these healthy relationship habits can help couples weather difficult times. How many do you use with your partner?

Click the link in our bio to read more.

01/23/2023

Posted • Sometimes, expressing our limits are more than enough.​​​​​​​​
Other times, we may need to explore the way boundaries are being used.​​​​​​​​
We may benefit from paying attention to whether boundaries are being used as a way to avoid taking responsibility for hurtful behavior.​​​​​​​​
It takes maturity to be willing to reflect on this within ourselves.​​​​​​​​
It takes discernment to notice these patterns in others.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​
Reflecting on this with other people’s boundaries:​​​​​​​​
Is this person setting a boundary because they are reaching their own capacity?​​​​​​​​
Is their boundary solely about them and has nothing to do with me?​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​
Some boundaries are deeply relational.​​​​​​​​
Some people may use boundaries because they can’t cope with what is happening.​​​​​​​​
Some people use them because they can’t regulate their shame.​​​​​​​​
There are so many potential reasons for this.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​
Sometimes we can address this if there is *NO ABUSE* present.​​​​​​​​
Sometimes we can bring this up if there is enough relational closeness/trust that may help to create space for new patterns of accountability.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​
“I’m noticing that you’re setting more boundaries with me lately, and particularly so after we had some big fights. How can we make things feel safer for both of us?”​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​
“I want you to know that you are allowed to make mistakes with me. You don’t have to be perfect. I feel so much closer with you when you can just own those mistakes and apologize. I’d really love to work on that together.”​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​
I also want to say that we can’t and we shouldn’t have to be the one who always inspires these conversations.​​​​​​​​
Sometimes people can’t engage in offering us accountability.​​​​​​​​
And sometimes, there will be space, and willingness to meet us and grow.
// Silvy Khoucasian

01/19/2023

Posted • Whewww!! Now THIS is a whole metaphor for life! 🙌🏿 Taking notes bc really came through with a WORD on how partners unpack things differently (and he wasn’t talking about that suitcase) 🤔👀✍🏾🖤

How do YOU unpack differently from your partner??? 👇🏿👇🏾👇🏽

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01/18/2023

Posted • This is your reminder that while saving $5 a day or investing $20 per week may not seem “glamorous” or impactful on the surface small amounts and habits push you one step closer to your end goal each day.

Start small and start now!

01/18/2023

01/18/2023

Posted • There comes a time where you have to take a step back and reevaluate who can continue to speak into your life— Protect your energy. Protect your peace. And PRIORITIZE the people who will cheer you on when you’re not in the room. 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿

Who are the people in your corner??? Tag ‘em in the comments! 👇🏿👇🏾👇🏽

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01/15/2023

Posted • Rest and slowing down is not an afterthought. It is the foundation. It is what thriving looks like. We are enough. We will rest!

Listen to my convo with
Get into the long form offering of our rest message by reading my book Rest is Resistance: A Manifesto slowly.

Link to buy my book and listen is in bio.

01/14/2023

.your.ish Season 2:Episode 2 Unpacking Self-sabotage is live! and .authentic.maurice discuss how self-sabotage appears in their lives. https://anchor.fm/unpacking.your.ish/episodes/Unpacking-Self-Sabotage-e1t0ntt

01/05/2023

Posted • I get it. You feel something different and rare with them. You feel more alive and vital in their vicinity. The intimacy you share is incredible.

All great things to experience.
All fun relationship ingredients.

But those ingredients will never be able to compensate for a lack of respect, misaligned values, inconsistent communication, or emotional unavailability.

Relationships of substance need the ingredients of both stability and safety. You deserve to feel cared for, aligned, understood, and emotionally held in your relationships this year.

So when you go out there and meet new humans this year,
Remember this. Look for this. Ask yourself these questions…

Does this person make me feel safe?
Does this person make me feel secure?

Or does this person make me feel heightened, alert, anxious, insecure, unsure, and unlike the version of me that is casually scrolling instagram reading these words right now.

01/05/2023

Posted • Your relationship to your emotions and thoughts are everything.

⭐️ How you respond or react to stimuli is everything ⭐️

Your ability to and intention of practicing to pause, check in with yourself and be accountable for what is happening to you internally is everything.

Being calm and centered in the midst of your partner’s dysregulation is everything.

⭐️ This is what emotional maturity is at the crux of it ⭐️

And it is a game changer for your relationships and life be it as a leader, partner, parent or friend.

- Are you noticing your patterns and how you tend to respond or react in situations?

- Are you practicing pausing and checking in with yourself?

- Are you working on addressing your past pain points?

- Are you taking ownership of your emotional life or blaming?

What comes up for you?

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01/05/2023

Posted • This week. Do this. Focus on the squeaky wheel.

01/05/2023

Posted • Unfollow the damn Shade Room!

Or if you won’t at least follow cuz balance!

I love an 8 step skin care routine but via Instagram I’ve also learned

- estate planning
- 12/3/30
- how to launch a digital product
- and 500 other things that have either made me money or deeply enriched my life.

I don’t want MY people missing out.

If you’re unhappy where 2022 ended for you it’s time to try something new. 💯

Tag a friend that needs to see this!

01/03/2023

Posted • Denzel Washington on Fatherhood❤️

01/03/2023

Posted • Some people aren’t loyal to you — they are loyal to their NEED of you. And once their needs change — so does their loyalty 🕳️

Tag or share with someone who needs the info👇 and check out our page for more📚

Ready for your next moves? The coaching plans at the link in the bio offer natural solutions for empowering yourself & those around you from the PRIVACY of Home 🏠

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