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Matters of money are difficult in relationships. Tamasin Thomas combines the world of money and psychology to illuminate what's happening below the surface

24/09/2026

For years I criticized & judged myself for every decision & thought I had about money.

But as a former financial advisor and current therapist, I knew every decision had merit. Why was I so harsh and critical of myself and why did that show up so loudly around money?

What I learned was that my relationship with money, like all my other relationships, was teaching me something about myself and if I was willing to listen, amazing personal growth and development could happen.

Best decision I ever made! The amount of personal freedom, self compassion and empowerment was so worth the journey.

22/09/2026

The hardest lesson I ever learned was that I, at times, could be my own bully.

Not intentionally, of course.

But when I really slowed down and started to observe what I said to myself in my head. . .

Ooff, it was harsh.

As I became aware of my inner harsh critic, I immediately wanted to get rid of it. (Who wouldn’t, right?!)

But that didn’t work. The words just became more harsh, telling myself “how silly it was that I couldn’t stop being mean to myself.”

Ironically, I happened to be in grad school for psychology when I began to notice how I was talking to myself

And I learned that the words I was using weren’t always mine and stuffing them wasn’t going to help.

So I pivoted. Instead of dismissing the criticism, I began to question it, with curiosity & kindness.

For instance, when I made an impulse buy I regretted later, Instead of saying to myself, “Can’t you learn? You messed up again- that purchase was so unnecessary.”

I would say, “I noticed I made an impulse buy & I now I regret it. I wonder what was happening for me when I bought that? Was I needing comfort? Was I trying to soothe myself?”

I replaced my self criticism with curiosity. And AMAZING things happened.

Shame -> dissolved
Fear -> decreased
Self acceptance -> increased
Healing -> happened
Self compassion -> was learned for the first time ever

I felt free-er, light-er, a better version of myself.

If you’re wanting to feel the same, hit follow and stick around a while. I’m glad you’re here.

❤️

02/09/2026

I used to want my bank account to have a certain balance to feel financially free.

Then I studied psychology & learned money was just a 🪞reflection of what I thought about myself.

Which is when I created financial freedom that isn’t defined by a number.

Follow to learn how to do the same 🙌🏼❤️

31/08/2026

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25/08/2026

I’m 47 and I’m not afraid to admit that:

1. I’m in recovery - recovery from being an eldest daughter, high achiever, people pleasing, perfectionist. I think I learned to be independent as a young girl, but sometimes I wonder if I took it too far

2. there’s this pressure i feel to have my money super organized, perfect, be on track for retirement, and make no financial mistakes - i take pride in that as a former financial advisor, but honestly, sometimes it feels like a cage

3. i struggle to let myself be supported - it took me a long time before i allowed myself to spend money on my own self care. i thought i should just be able to care for myself without outside support

4. i’m terrible at spending money on experiences, fun or play with friends - i have this story inside me that believes that’s “irresponsible” and i yet when i slow down and ask myself if i agree with that belief system, the answer is no

5. i’ve stopped trying to be perfect. i’m learning that financial success includes more than just the balance in my accounts - it’s about a life i’m creating, a way of living where i feel fully present - trusting myself, surrendering to the process, and healing old beliefs that keep me stuck

If you need a safe place to do the same, this is it. Follow along :)

inspo 🙏🏻

07/08/2026

The secret sauce is inside step #2!!

🌺If you’re new here, hi, I’m Tammy. Currently a licensed therapist, money consultant and former financial advisor. I combine the world of money & psychology to help us understand what’s going on below the surface in order to heal money patterns we don’t like, which are often old survival strategies in disguise. If that’s your sort of thing, hit follow and save.

06/08/2026

Your inner child may be running how you think, feel and spend money.

Here’s what I mean by that. . .

But first, be sure to Save this post for when you need a loving reminder. 🫶🏼

Some times our unconscious holds belief systems that impact our decisions around money and we’re not even aware of it.

This skit is illustrating how the inner child holds a belief that you’re only allowed to spend money if it’s “absolutely necessary.”

So when Tammy, as an adult, finds a blouse that makes her feel AMAZING! That lights her up and brings her joy, it’s immediately squashed by the belief system her body holds.

The story she’s been told during childhood hasn’t yet been updated to match her adult life circumstances.

As an adult, Tammy makes good money & can spend money on things or experiences that bring her joy, if she wants to.

But in this skit, adult Tammy hasn’t yet experienced that freedom, because her little girl is still using the protective strategy she adapt as a child.

(Psst, now might be a good time to share this reel with someone you love)

Financial freedom, healing, growth & emotional awareness start when we recognize there is often an entanglement between our inner child and our adult selves- healing happens when we’re able to untangle past from present.

I’ve heard so many clients confess they “hate their inner child,” that he or she “gets in the way.”

That is natural.

A tweak I’ve found helpful is to see it as a friendly, white flag, simply saying, “hey, there’s something here that needs attention.”

If you’re new here, hi, I’m Tammy. Currently therapist, consultant and formerly a financial advisor. I combine the world of money & psychology to help us understand what’s going on below the surface. If that’s your sort of thing, hit follow and save.

19/07/2026

If someone gave you a million dollars. . .

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30/04/2026

If you keep thinking to yourself “I know better, why did I do that?” Around your finances…this isn’t about willpower.

Avoidance or over spending or not paying a bill on time (or whatever the perceived negative money pattern is) is a protection response.

When you feel overwhelming, confusing, or emotionally loaded, your system learns to shut it down.

Not because you don’t care, but because it feels like too much.

The goal isn’t to force yourself into action.

It’s to make money feel safe enough to approach.

Small steps.

Gentle awareness.

No shame.

That’s how change actually happens.

Comment “START” if you’re ready to begin, proclaim it!

Save this for when you feel the urge to avoid

When you understand your money behavior, you can finally change it. I help you understand your money behaviors so you can move from shame → self-trust.

10/04/2026

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