09/13/2025
Why are we so cruel to each other? My daughter had spent days working on this scarf. Picking the yarn, learning the Celtic Knot technique, weaving each row like it mattered because to her, it did. She told me she wanted to gift it to a girl in her class. “Just because,” she said. "I think she’s cool and maybe we could be friends."
That girl took the scarf, held it up, and said, “Thanks, but I’m not a grandma.”
Then handed it back.
My daughter didn’t say anything. She just turned around and walked home alone.
And then stayed home for the next week.
She told her school she was sick. And in a way, she was. Not fever-sick. But the kind of sick you feel when someone tells you that what you made with love is silly, outdated, or not enough. The kind of sick that makes you question whether you should ever try again.
We spent that week doing little things: baking, watching old movies, unraveling yarn together. And on the third day, I told her something I wish someone had told me when I was her age:
Being a creator will always be harder than being a critic. But in the end, creators change the world.
So we made her a shop. I signed her up on the Tedooo app and got her the Pro account the same one I use for my store. No fees, no pressure, just her own corner of the world to keep making, and maybe, if she’s lucky, find people who get it.
She’s doing better. Still quiet. But her yarn basket’s full again. And last night, she asked if I could help her ship her first scarf. Not this one, though. This one stays with her.
She said it reminds her that kindness should never be optional and that every knot in life can still become something beautiful.
If you’re reading this and you’ve got a young crafter at home: remind them that their work matters. Even when it’s met with silence. Especially then.