https://www.facebook.com/239861182538870/

Scott May, 2478 Vesta Drive, West Chicago, IL (2025)

12/27/2025

The Dull Girl’s Dating Profile
My name is Tara and I’m a mess. Really, I am. And I’m ok with that.
- I have a pair of pantyhose hanging on the back of my bedroom door. They’ve been there for 2 years. Yes, years. I’m single, they aren’t bothering anyone, and at least I know where they are. Until I need them. Then I forget.
- Sometimes I sleep on the couch, not because I’m watching TV, but because I usually make decisions like “let’s reorganize the closet!” at 10pm, and I run out of steam about the same time I’ve quartered the bed into “sorting categories.”
- I am proud to say that I don’t have one single bag of donations in my trunk (there are two)
- Sometimes I eat marshmallows as a midnight snack because there’s no crumbs or grease. Sometimes you can find them in my bedside drawer.
- I cuss when I’m frustrated. I hide when I’m sick or tired. I run away when I think I’m in love.
- I’m crazy about my dog, my kids, and the thought of a man bringing a decent toolbox into my life.
- I’ve never been the prettiest girl in the room, but I finally feel like I’m exactly as God intended. The people I love fit perfectly in my arms and they light up when I enter the room. I’m not perfect, but I love being perfect for them.
- I work too much. I eat out too much. I watched all of the seasons of Dance Moms.
- I allowed my daughter to turn me into a Swifty.
- My dad is quiet, my mom is kinda crazy, my kids are pranksters, but I have a cool dog.
- I do enjoy an occasional Red Bull. Sometimes two.
- I’ve made a lot of mistakes, but fake lashes has never been one of them. I know my limits.
- I work really hard to get men into bed every night. (.. oh, I’m a hotel GM)
But I’m also a pretty good person. I’ve finally forgiven myself for unfinished projects because I’ve spent that time “living and loving”. I wouldn’t trade my friends for an organized closet or my memories for a checked-off calendar. I sleep with a clear conscience, I have a few bucks tucked aside, and I have more loyal friends and employees than I can count. Even though my gas gauge is usually on empty and my keys disappear when I’m late, I’m still pretty sure I would date me. And with as picky as I am, that’s enough to know I’m doing just fine.
52, Boise ID, banana cream pie in the freezer, kicking back in size 8 slippers with the laces missing

12/27/2025

This is my amazing husband. He has really taken his better or “for worst” wows seriously. You see when I met him 14 years ago, I had unknowingly been masking my whole life. I knew how to act “perfect” until I couldn’t anymore. And then the diagnoses started coming…. ADHD, ASD level 2 and the most debilitating of all…. Borderline personality disorder. If you know someone with BPD, you know how irrational we can be, the ups and downs for no reason. Both our kids (that I love more than anything on this planet) are also autistic and have ADHD. My husband is still here through it all. I would have divorced myself a looooong time ago. I question what I did to deserve him most days and I feel he deserves much better than me but I know how bloody lucky I am that I have found him. I just don’t tell him or show him but I do. Being a nurse and caring for others makes me forget my pain and it is the one thing in life I don’t doubt I do well. I want to believe that I deserve to be loved. From my husband and from my kids. BPD has such a bad reputation unfortunately so I try to raise awareness that it is possible to have a “normal” life and find your person to support you along the way 🩷

12/27/2025

Does anyone remember the movie Thirteen Ghosts? This year for Halloween, I made my own costume so I could be the Jackal!

12/27/2025

This is me holding my first grand baby. My query is this… how many of us are referred to as Grandma? I ask because a dear friend of mine joined the club yesterday and she is going by the moniker of Mimsey. I know some Omas and GiGis and GaGas and Mimis but apparently being called Grandma is too dull for most? What are you called by your grands? I now have a second and that gives me a grandson and a granddaughter. Very proud of course. F USA sz 11.5(if I could find them) out of 🍌at the moment. I live being called Grandma. 🤩

12/27/2025

Yesterday, after work, I stopped at Aldi on my way home. I only needed a couple things & didn't need a cart, but, when I parked there was an abandoned cart in the space next to me. I figured I may as well use it & enjoy the free quarter. I got a few things more than I originally planned & it was nice having the cart to carry it. At the checkout I let a young man with his arms full of Xmas items & wrapping paper go in front of me. After all, I had a cart.
His total was just over $20 & he asked the cashier to remove the oatmeal cream pies. This young man had just spent his last dollars to get gifts for his loved ones, I asked the cashier to add the snack to my groceries. At the bagging table, I slid the box to him & told him "Merry Xmas". His eyes lit up as he thanked me. I'm glad I could share a little joy with such a considerate young man.
As I returned the cart, I received the quarter. I've never seen this design, it made me smile. It's moments like this I wonder if things really happen by chance. Maybe it's us who creates the opportunities to hope for a better future. May all your Holidays be full of love & hope.

12/27/2025

Today in Las Vegas, where rain is rare enough.
No banana for scale as I am allergic. 😂

12/27/2025

My wedding this past weekend. We are both size 10 US in shoes, makes sharing shoes easy! No bananas for scale, sorry. I'm in purple.

12/26/2025

I’ve been enjoying everyone else’s posts, so I thought I’d introduce myself!
I’m Blair, 34, Austin, TX. I’m definitely a dull woman, although my ‘wild’ hair and often loud style can confuse people. The reality is I’m a retired party girl, spending most of my time tinkering around my apartment, making little collages or reading. I will listen to the same song over and over. I’ll research every detail about a special interest. I journal every morning. I protect my peace!🧘‍♀️
I’ve been single for seven years, and at this point, my little old dog and I are basically common-law married. My handful of close friends are also dull women, and we delightfully respect each other’s boundaries by mostly socializing sparingly on the phone, online, or before 6 pm.
In my 20s, I felt a lot of shame trying to fit in with the non-dulls. Now I realize that we’re in on the best secret! This life is a great life. ❤️

12/26/2025

Okay, I’m not usually one to brag about myself, and I KNOW this might be a little too risqué for you folks, but I’m gunna do it anyway.💅💅💅
This year my family decided to do steaks for dinner. I lowkey complained to my sister about it but moved on. I was in charge of her cake for her birthday… her request? A cake that looked like a turkey, the more horrifying the better. Strawberry was the recommended flavor.
I work hard, I don’t halfass.
SOOOOO, I present to you my Thanksgiving turkey, complete with stuffing!!! I ran out of frosting and stores were closed, or it would’ve been better but I’m pretty proud of myself.
The base is strawberry cake, it has yellow cake for stuffing, the wings and chest area are made from cake pop, and the drumsticks are fruity pebble rice crispy treats.
😋😋😋🤤🤤🤤🍗🎂🦃🍰

On TikTok in case you want videos of me cackling while I make it🤣🤣🤣

12/26/2025

A neighbor friend recently relocated to another state temporarily for a job, she was pretty anxious about taking it, and three states away to a place she'd never been before. But she'd wanted to go. We only talk occasionally, but I'd done that relocation a few times, and know how scared silly you can get on your own, I once stayed in a motel room for 10 days before I could muster up the courage to actually leave the room and go exploring, or just go anywhere. She planned to leave right after Easter, so I though why not fix her a little basket of goodies to take on the road with her, some snacks and one of those goodies was a stuffed rabbit with a weighted bottom that I figured she could keep in the passenger seat while she was driving - in case she needed something to talk to when she was driving - knowing how hard driving long distance is.
So now she's updated me, twice now, with photos of that rabbit, today's update just her and the bunny, chilling out with some refreshment, in the yard of the medical staff hostel she's staying in. Yes, we're dull, but not so dull that we don't need some support, and get silly once in awhile. And bunny buddy seems to be doing the job well.

12/26/2025

Headed to prom, 2013: Throughout high school, I worked part-time as a waitress in the dining room of a nearby retirement home. We had a tradition each year for the residents to do a send off for the high school kids who worked there on their way to the prom.
This photo is with Bill in his signature bolo tie and suspenders, who you couldn’t help but smile around. Known as “Dancing Bill” to the staff and residents, he’d get up and start dancing whenever he was pleased or excited, which happened a lot, but especially when you brought over his nightly dessert — two bowls of BlueBell ice cream: one chocolate and one strawberry.
A couple weeks earlier, I was waiting on Bill’s table and told him how much I would miss his dancing at the prom. We agreed he’d be my “real” date (as always with Bill, said with a wink) since the boy I was going with wasn’t that great of a dancer. This photo was taken by one of the other waitresses in the dining hall during my first and favorite dance on prom night, with the best dance partner I could ask for.

12/26/2025

Wedding photos? I'll bite!
Exactly one month before this photo was taken, we were sitting in an oncologist’s office as he explained that my fiancé’s lung cancer wasn’t curable. Treatment would only manage the disease - not defeat it.
At that point, we’d been together for nine years. Marriage had always been something we were open to - we were engaged - but we were also perfectly comfortable with the idea of not getting married. For a long time, practicalities stood in the way: I was in undergrad, then grad school, and we both agreed that tying the knot didn’t make sense just yet, financially and otherwise.
Then I graduated, started my career, then BAM - the diagnosis. Suddenly, all those “one day” plans turned into “we better do this soon.”
That morning, we went to the courthouse and picked up a marriage license. We didn’t have a date in mind, no real plan - just the paperwork. We figured we’d eventually have a small, informal ceremony to appease the pearl-clutchers, even though neither of us wanted anything close to a wedding, especially then, given the circumstances.
That same evening, we ended up at a Christmas party we had already decided not to attend. We knew we’d be working late and only knew two people who would be there: the host and her husband. It wasn’t our scene at all.
But we went.
At some point during the evening, the host - who also happened to own the home health agency we both contracted with - jokingly asked, “So, when are you two finally going to tie the knot?” A common question for us having been together for so long.
Without missing a beat, I joked back, “If there’s anyone here tonight who’s ordained, we’ll get married right now!”
I mean, come on. What were the cha.....
The host. The host was ordained.
And just like that, we were in a “to hell with it” kind of mood - ready to ignore anyone who might have strong opinions about how we should do things.
Honestly? It couldn’t have worked out better if we had planned it from the start. And I couldn't be happier having just celebrated our 3rd "wedding" anniversary in December, 13 years together on June 2, and "stable disease" scans 2 weeks ago.
Edit: feedback is overwhelmingly heart warming. We are so private about the details of his diagnosis I often feel alone in the grief that this brings on - this was a catharsis I honestly didn't know I needed. Thank you guys 🥹

Scott May

12/27/2025

12/27/2025

12/27/2025

12/27/2025

12/27/2025

12/27/2025

12/27/2025

12/26/2025

12/26/2025

12/26/2025

12/26/2025

12/26/2025

Address

Telephone

Website

Alerts

Contact The Business

Shortcuts

Share

Category