Let's Talk Polyamory Podcast with T&A

07/26/2025

T&A Beach Day! Anyone else at Hanlon’s today? We’re near the flag pole!

07/16/2025

Are you struggling to attract the right partners—or frustrated that they don’t stick around?

In this week’s podcast release we’re pulling from the archives to talk about one of the most common questions we hear:
How do I attract (and keep) great poly partners?

We share some fun stories (including our first date 👀), explore how your dating profile might be landing with others, and walk through how our Securely Polyamorous Framework helps you meet people who actually fit.

🎁 Bonus: Grab our FREE Online Dating Guide
✅ Top dating sites for non-monogamous folks
✅ Profile writing tips
✅ Online dating checklist
✅ Links to trainings + podcast episodes
👉 go.letstalkpolyamory.com/onlinedatingguide - link in bio link tree

✨ Listen to the full episode now on a Spotify here https://open.spotify.com/episode/33wOni8yUXUKBnbPtzc6ud?si=XKrTj2ucS3isichLRKZkmg or wherever you get your podcasts! Links in bio link tree!

07/13/2025

🗓️ Two other Week of Visibility for Non-Monogamy themes are 𝗣𝘂𝗯𝗹𝗶𝗰 & 𝗣𝗿𝗶𝘃𝗮𝘁𝗲 and 𝗟𝗮𝘄 & 𝗔𝗱𝘃𝗼𝗰𝗮𝗰𝘆. These themes highlight the complex realities many non-monogamous people face when it comes to being seen, supported, and protected.

Visibility is powerful—but it’s not the only path. And it’s not the only issue.

🔐 𝗣𝘂𝗯𝗹𝗶𝗰 & 𝗣𝗿𝗶𝘃𝗮𝘁𝗲
Not everyone can or wants to be “out” about their non-monogamous relationships. Parenting, jobs, family dynamics, and safety concerns make visibility a deeply personal—and sometimes risky—choice.
Some people are visible. Some are not. Both are valid.

⚖️ 𝗟𝗮𝘄 & 𝗔𝗱𝘃𝗼𝗰𝗮𝗰𝘆
Most laws weren’t created with non-monogamous people in mind. From hospital visitation to parenting rights, many families fall outside what legal systems recognize. In some places, we’re seeing rights rolled back, making advocacy more important than ever.

🎙️ We also released a new podcast episode this week: “What Does it Mean to Be Visible? Being Out and Open as Polyamorous”

We share our personal stories of being out (or not), talk about how visibility shows up in relationships, and explore how cultural and legal systems shape our choices.

𝗟𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗻 𝗻𝗼𝘄 𝗼𝗻 𝗦𝗽𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗳𝘆:
👉 https://open.spotify.com/episode/52wa8DHaqAswUV8BwfcY0T?si=iqQJoonrSXeIH5DGUI4vhA

💭 𝗦𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗥𝗲𝗳𝗹𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀:
👀 What does visibility look like for you?What does privacy protect—and what might visibility offer?
What does privacy protect—and what might visibility offer?
⚖️ Where have you felt unseen or unsupported by the system?
📣 What kind of recognition or protection would help your family thrive?

✅ 𝗧𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝗔𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻:
– If you feel safe doing so, share your story (anonymously or publicly):
👉 https://www.weekofvisibility.com/shareyourstory
– Research organizations advocating for non-monogamous families and relationship rights.
– Support or join legal and cultural advocacy efforts that align with your values.

More at: https://www.weekofvisibility.com

07/09/2025

Do any of these sound familiar? Let us know in the comments 👇
“You just want to sleep around.”
“You’re afraid of commitment.”
“You must not really love your partner(s).”

Today’s theme for Week of Visibility for Non-Monogamy is 𝗠𝘆𝘁𝗵𝘀 & 𝗠𝗶𝘀𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗰𝗲𝗽𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀—and there are plenty to unpack.

🎙️ On our Let’s Talk Polyamory episode Debunking Common Myths About Polyamory - https://open.spotify.com/episode/0rst1t9Jv2x6xlgkJE2fYP?si=GjB8w0bwT_m1v_8zXJJoCQ , we take on the stereotypes and share what’s actually true for many of us.

𝗧𝗼𝗱𝗮𝘆’𝘀 𝗿𝗲𝗳𝗹𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻:
❌ What myths did you believe or hear when you started exploring CNM?
💡 What changed once you began living it?

𝗧𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝗔𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻:
✅ Listen to the 𝗗𝗲𝗯𝘂𝗻𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗖𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗼𝗻 𝗠𝘆𝘁𝗵𝘀 𝗔𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗣𝗼𝗹𝘆𝗮𝗺𝗼𝗿𝘆 episode
✅ Write down one myth you want to challenge publicly or within your circles.
✅ Share a personal truth or insight that helps dispel a common misconception.

More at: https://www.weekofvisibility.com

07/09/2025

Our identities shape the way we love—and how we want to be loved in return.

Today’s Week of Visibility for Non-Monogamy theme is Identity & Inclusion. Race, gender, s*xuality, class, disability—all influence how we experience non-monogamy and how included we feel in its spaces.

🎧 In our Let’s Talk Polyamory episode 𝙃𝙤𝙬 𝙒𝙚 𝙇𝙤𝙫𝙚 we explore how identity shapes your path—and how figuring out your style of non-monogamy starts with knowing who you are.

Today’s reflection:
🌈 What parts of your identity shape your relationship choices?
🌱 Where do you feel included—and where do we need to do better?

Take Action:
✅ Listen to the 𝙃𝙤𝙬 𝙒𝙚 𝙇𝙤𝙫𝙚 episode on the Let’s Talk Polyamory podcast here - https://open.spotify.com/episode/2wQiiMrHCFltYorI7bdEGs?si=mZJMsbPHQM6Mpf5Y4nbBOQ
✅ Check out resources or groups that focus on intersectional non-monogamy or identity-affirming relationship spaces.
✅ Reflect on what inclusion means to you and how you can contribute to making spaces more welcoming.

More at: https://www.weekofvisibility.com

07/07/2025

𝗡𝗼𝗻-𝗺𝗼𝗻𝗼𝗴𝗮𝗺𝘆 𝗶𝘀𝗻’𝘁 𝗮 𝙩𝙧𝙚𝙣𝙙—i𝘁’𝘀 𝗮 𝙩𝙝𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙙 𝗿𝘂𝗻𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗿𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵 𝗵𝘂𝗺𝗮𝗻 𝗵𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗼𝗿𝘆.

Today’s theme for 𝗪𝗲𝗲𝗸 𝗼𝗳 𝗩𝗶𝘀𝗶𝗯𝗶𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘆 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗡𝗼𝗻-𝗠𝗼𝗻𝗼𝗴𝗮𝗺𝘆 is 𝙃𝙞𝙨𝙩𝙤𝙧𝙮 & 𝘾𝙪𝙡𝙩𝙪𝙧𝙚, a chance to honour the diverse lineages of love that came before us—from q***r kinship circles to communal parenting traditions to modern-day polycules.

𝗧𝗼𝗱𝗮𝘆’𝘀 𝗿𝗲𝗳𝗹𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻:
📜 What cultural influences or historical stories shaped your ideas of relationships?
🌍 Where do you see your story reflected—or missing—in the dominant relationship narratives?

𝗧𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝗔𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻:
✅ Explore books, podcasts, or documentaries about relationship diversity in different cultures and histories.
✅ Share a story or fact you learned about non-monogamy’s rich history on social media or with friends.

More at: https://www.weekofvisibility.com

07/07/2025

Tomorrow kicks off the 𝗪𝗲𝗲𝗸 𝗼𝗳 𝗩𝗶𝘀𝗶𝗯𝗶𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘆 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗡𝗼𝗻-𝗠𝗼𝗻𝗼𝗴𝗮𝗺𝘆 (𝗝𝘂𝗹𝘆 𝟳–1𝟯), and we’ll be sharing reflections, questions, and actions every day to amplify non-monogamous voices, identities, and experiences.

✨ The Week of Visibility is a week of action dedicated to dismantling stereotypes, promoting acceptance, and celebrating how far we’ve come as a movement.

For us, it’s been an incredible 8+ years of learning, unlearning, loving, making mistakes, growing—and now, helping others do the same.

So whether you’re out and proud, private and processing, curious or committed—we hope you’ll join us this week in reflecting on your relationship journey, asking big questions, and celebrating the many beautiful forms love can take.

Let’s normalize non-monogamy as a valid relational identity.
Let’s create a big-tent movement.
Let’s talk about it—together. 💜

𝗧𝗼𝗱𝗮𝘆’𝘀 𝗿𝗲𝗳𝗹𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻:
⚡️ What part of your journey are you most proud of?
🤔 What are you curious about as you continue exploring your relationships?

𝗧𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝗔𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻:
✅ Set an intention for this week—for example, to be curious, kind, and open.
✅ Consider following or supporting non-monogamous creators and communities this week.

More at: https://www.weekofvisibility.com

07/03/2025

💔Relationship burnout is common—but it’s not a life sentence.

In this episode of the Let’s Talk Polyamory Podcast - Relationship Burnout: How to Make LRE Feel Like NRE Again - we dive into what really causes burnout in long-term relationships—and what you can actually do to feel more connected, seen, and excited again.

Whether you’re sharing a home, co-parenting, or carrying a heavy emotional load, it’s natural for long-term dynamics to feel flat sometimes—especially when you compare that against the spark of New Relationship Energy with someone new that's lighting you up!

We unpack:

✨What burnout looks like (and where it often comes from)
✨Why NRE feels so good
✨Tools to make LRE feel fresh again (RAADAR reviews, Gottman’s 5:1 ratio, intentional transitions, and of course communication)
✨Plus, how we keep our own long-term relationship playful, s*xy, and solid

🎧Now streaming on Spotify here and wherever you listen to podcasts!

Check out Let's Talk Polyamory 🇨🇦’s video.

05/31/2025

You may have heard people say that having COMPERSION is critical, and if you experience JEALOUSY, even if it is from time to time, then you’re not going to succeed in polyamory.

🚫 100% not true!

We all experience jealousy from time to time and it is ok. We are, humans with feelings after all.

Experiencing feelings of jealousy can provides us the opportunity to be curious and delve into the root causes and determine what we might need to feel more secure.

Because while a little jealousy can be ok, if it persists and is hurting you or your relationships on an ongoing basis, it IS something that would be of benefit to address.

listen to episode 54 of the Let’s Talk Polyamory Podcast to J is for Jealousy and the seven things you can do to feel more secure!

Links in bio link tree 👆to:

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❤️ Book 1:1 coaching or therapy support with us and receive non-monogamy advice and support customized to your needs. This includes our program for couples - Polyamory Mastery
💙Get our latest free download!
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