03/09/2025
Another day, another moment where you wonder, Am I actually growing, or am I just falling apart? 👇🏼
You’ve been doing the work—breaking cycles, setting boundaries, choosing yourself instead of old patterns that kept you stuck. You’re unlearning everything you were told about what success, love, and self-worth should look like.
But instead of feeling lighter, you feel like you’re losing pieces of yourself. Your old identity doesn’t quite fit anymore, but the new one? It’s not fully formed yet. And in the in-between, the fear creeps in:
❌ What if I’m making a mistake?
❌ What if I lose everything?
❌ What if I fail?
This is the shadow of failure—the part of you that clings to the familiar, even when it’s keeping you small.
But here’s what most people don’t realize: growth doesn’t always feel good. It feels like loss before it feels like freedom. It feels like uncertainty before it feels like clarity. It feels like breaking before it feels like becoming.
✨ This is preservation. The stage where you learn to hold onto what truly matters—your truth, your peace, your self-worth—while releasing everything that no longer serves you.
And when you trust the process, when you stop seeing change as failure and start seeing it as transformation? That’s when you step into something greater than you ever imagined.
Here’s how to move through it:
✔ Stop seeing discomfort as a sign you’re doing something wrong. It’s proof you’re evolving.
✔ Let go of what’s dead weight. Some relationships, beliefs, and habits won’t make it to your next level—and that’s okay.
✔ Trust that who you’re becoming is worth the in-between. Because you’re not failing, you’re becoming.
THIS is how we stop fearing change and start trusting our own evolution.
If you’re feeling the growing pains and need support navigating them, DM me EVOLVE, and let’s talk about the next steps. 💛
