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09/28/2026

AITAH for disclosing the real reason my mother threw me out?

I 18(F) am a le***an and recently came out. My mother kicked me out of the house and I’m staying with my girlfriend. My mother made a post taking about how ungrateful I am and that I’m a horrible person. My mother made a post asking for prayers because “My daughter hates me and I don’t know why!” I commented on her post, and said “You literally kicked me out of the house for being gay. The pastor is a creep and was out of line for what he was saying to me.” My grandmother on my mother’s side saw what I commented and ripped my mother a new one.

My grandmother offered me a place at her house. My grandmother no longer speaks to my mother after everything I’ve told her.

09/28/2026

AITA for staying married to my wife when we only got married because she got pregnant?

My wife and I have been married for 25 years. We got married because she got pregnant when we were 20, we weren't even a couple, we only knew each other through mutual friends.

We remained married all these years. We have always treated each other with respect, love and affection. There are no infidelities and we try to resolve problems the same day. We also had 2 more children.

But several of my friends say it's kind of stupid that I stayed married for so long when I only got married for a baby and that I should have gotten divorced a long time ago to enjoy my life. But I really love my wife but they keep saying I'm stupid.

09/28/2026

AITAH for not wanting to go to my cousin's wedding after she almost ruined my marriage?

So, this has been eating me up for a while, and I really need some outside perspective on whether I'm in the wrong here.

A few months ago, my cousin "Jess" (not her real name) pulled something that nearly destroyed my marriage. Jess and I used to be super close, like sisters almost, but things have been weird ever since I got married to my husband, "Tom." For some reason, she never really liked Tom, even though he’s always been super kind and respectful to her.

Anyway, out of nowhere, Jess decided to tell Tom that I had been cheating on him with some guy I used to know in college. She told him this elaborate story about how we were seeing each other behind his back, meeting up after work, and all this stuff that was 100% made up. Tom confronted me, and we had the biggest fight of our marriage. He was devastated, and honestly, I was too, because I had NO idea where this was coming from. We nearly separated over this, but luckily, after a lot of talks, tears, and some detective work, Tom finally believed me and we managed to work things out.

It turns out, Jess was just jealous of my relationship and wanted to stir things up for whatever reason. She never admitted it, but she got caught in so many lies that it was pretty obvious what her intentions were.

Now, Jess is getting married in a couple of months, and I've been invited to the wedding. My family is pressuring me to go because "family is family" and "you can't hold a grudge forever." But I honestly don't want to see her, let alone celebrate her big day after what she did. Every time I think about...

AITAH for not trying couples therapy with my ex because she gave my number to my brother?When I (25M) was 10 my mom pass...
09/28/2026

AITAH for not trying couples therapy with my ex because she gave my number to my brother?

When I (25M) was 10 my mom passed away. My brothers were 19 and 23 at the time. None of my 'family' members took me in. Not even my brothers and I hated them all for it. While in foster care, we had the occasional call once in a while but I never enjoyed it. When I was 20 I still resented my 'family' so I just decided I needed a fresh start.

I left and didn't tell anyone, nor did I maintain contact. I started dating my ex-fiancée (30F) when I was 22. She knew I wasn't in contact with my 'family' and that I was in foster care, but that's all she knew. My ex-fiancée is an only child, and sometime last year she started bringing up the idea of getting in touch with my 'family', specifically my brothers because she doesn't want our future children to be deprived of a relationship with their uncles.

I always made it clear that I wanted absolutely nothing to do with my 'family' and that I'd appreciate it if she'd drop it. She 'dropped it' for a while, or led me to believe she did because two months ago, I got a text from an unknown number. It was my oldest brother. To keep this short, I blocked him but not before finding out that my fiancée was the one who gave my number away. When I confronted her about it, she didn't deny it and told me that she was only trying to help me get over a grudge and kept pressuring me to give it a chance for her.

I wasn't in the mood to argue so I just broke up with on the spot. I had warned her before and she deliberately went behind my...

AITAH for moving away from someone watching a video on their phone on speakerphone?I was sitting on the sidelines waitin...
09/27/2026

AITAH for moving away from someone watching a video on their phone on speakerphone?

I was sitting on the sidelines waiting for my son's soccer practice to start. A woman walks over with her two children and sits next to me. She had a one or two year old in a stroller who was watching a movie or show at full volume without headphones.

I did not say anything, make any noises or gestures in her direction. I just stood up, gathered my chair, and moved. As I was setting my chair up in the new location I looked over at the woman and she was staring/scowling at me like I was the one doing something wrong.

I have four children myself ranged in an age from 12 to 19. I don't have any problem with how anyone else parents, but I do have a problem with anyone using their speakerphone turned up loudly in a public place. I personally find it distracting and I think it's rude.

AITAH here? Are there other cultures/subcultures that consider this behavior acceptable and normal? Edit: This is getting an interesting reaction - 40% of votes are downvotes.

I 100% welcome feedback from anyone on this who thinks I should have handled the situation differently. Even if you want to DM me.

AITA For The Choice I Made 14 Years Ago?In 2010 (when I was 23) I was dating a man that I loved. He had proposed to me a...
09/27/2026

AITA For The Choice I Made 14 Years Ago?

In 2010 (when I was 23) I was dating a man that I loved. He had proposed to me and we were planning a life together. One night we were having a conversation and I had brought up that I at the time wanted 4 kids. He said that was too many, and he really didn't want any kids but would agree to 1 for me, but he wanted to name it a very specific name if it was a boy and if it was a girl she would be completely my responsibility. I sat on that for a few days and decided that I wasn't willing to agree with those terms. We broke up and went our separate ways. I ended up moving to a new state within weeks of the breakup. About a month after I moved I found out I was pregnant. A part of me thought maybe I should go back and make the relationship work. I called him twice, and left messages saying it was important that he call me back. I called his sister and told her to please have him call me and as a last resort sent him an email. 2 weeks in and I hadn't heard anything. I knew I wasn't in a place to care for a child alone I had my sister take me to get an a__rtion.

Since then I've gotten married I have 3 kids (11, 6, 2) and while I wonder how things would have been different if I hadn't ended the pregnancy, I'm happy with life. One of my best friends from the state I left is getting married and last weekend I flew out for dress shopping. While we were at lunch on Saturday we ran into my ex. He had a 3...

09/27/2026

AITAH for Telling My Fiancé That Her Wedding Budget Is Unrealistic?

My fiancé and I have been engaged for six months, and we’re starting to plan our wedding. She’s always dreamed of a big, lavish wedding, and I’ve always supported her vision. However, when we started discussing the budget, I realized that her expectations were far beyond what we could afford. She’s envisioning a grand event with an expensive venue, designer dress, and a large guest list.

I sat down with her and went over our finances, showing her how much we could realistically spend without going into debt. I suggested some cost-saving measures, like a smaller guest list, a less expensive dress, or a more budget-friendly venue. She got very upset and said that I was ruining her dream wedding. She believes that a wedding is a once-in-a-lifetime event and that we should go all out, even if it means taking on debt.

I told her that I wanted our wedding to be special too, but that we need to be practical about what we can afford. I suggested that we could save up for a few more years and then have the big wedding she’s always wanted, or we could compromise and have a beautiful but more modest wedding now. She accused me of not caring about her happiness and said I was being cheap.

Now, she’s giving me the silent treatment and refusing to discuss the wedding any further. Some of our friends think I’m being reasonable, while others say I should just agree to her wishes. AITAH for telling my fiancé that her wedding budget is unrealistic?

09/27/2026

AITA for demanding my gf let my sister’s family stay after they adopted a dog?

My gf owns a duplex and when she bought it it had an unfinished basement. She had been living upstairs and working on making the basement a rental suite. I moved in 5 months ago and began paying her rent. It’s a bit below market rate as I can’t afford my own apartment with everything being so expensive. My sister’s family also faced the same issues and after some convincing my gf agreed to let them stay for a bit below what she wanted to rent the basement for. She wasn’t happy initially but my BIL shoves the snow and in the summer mows the lawn so she’s ok with it and even offered to let them stay longer than the 3 months they originally agreed to. They took that to mean they had the place permanently and got a shelter dog a few days ago.

They said she said yes verbally, she said they never asked her about it. The dog is good, never damaged anything. But my gf is demanding they take the dog back or leave in 2 months. I’m angry because she delivered this news yesterday on Christmas but she claimed that’s when she found out since they have been hiding the dog from her and didn’t want to waste any time telling them it was not ok. I’m think she is being a cruel landlady and the dog isn’t aggressive but she claims his breed will make her insurance premiums go up. She also has a dog so it’s not like she just hates dogs. I told her to have some sympathy for my family and she yelled at me that my family was taking advantage of her because they never would have brought a dog without approval to any regular rental. We had...

09/27/2026

AITAH for not helping a woman who says her child should receive survivor benefits from my late ex?

My(43) ex husband Duke(54) and I divorced because he habitually cheat on me. We were divorced a little over 2 years when he died in a motorcycle accident. I paid for his funeral because of my daughter(15) and despite everything he was her father and I didn’t want the state to bury him. That was 4 months ago and my daughter is doing well. I applied for survivors benefits for her shortly after his funeral and have been receiving monthly payments. Yesterday I received a phone call from my caseworker at the social security office informing me that a woman called claiming that she had a 3 years old son by my ex husband. However the woman had no proof the boy is actually my ex husband’s(not signed birth certificate or dna test). The case worker asked me if I would be willing to allow my daughter to do a dna test to prove this child’s paternity. I refused. I did the math and this child was definitely conceived while I was still married to my ex. Furthermore at the time of conception I had gone thru a very traumatic hysterectomy with major setbacks that nearly killed me. I suspect I know who this woman is and she definitely knew my ex husband and I were still married. I’m mad as hell and I’m not sure if I’m doing the right thing by refusing but I was humiliated enough but my ex when he was alive and I feel even more embarrassed now.

Edit. I wrote this over a year ago when I first found out about the situation. Tried to post it in another group but it wouldn’t let me. I’m posting here now because I came across it in my posting history and really wanted to know...

AITAH for telling my parents that they focus on my adopted sister so much that it makes me feel like they don't see me a...
09/27/2026

AITAH for telling my parents that they focus on my adopted sister so much that it makes me feel like they don't see me as their daughter?

When I(16f) was younger my parents adopted my sister who is a year younger than me even though they had no plans to adopt. The reason why they adopted her was because she is diabetic and they were afraid she would not get proper treatment in the home she was staying at. My parents used to work as social workers which is how they got to meet my sister. When my sister was adopted i was excited to have a sister and we were always together as we are only a year apart this continued for most of our childhood but when i started to get older my parents tried to create a distance between us. For example whenever my sister has an event at school my parents make a point to show up together and take her out for food afterwards but whenever i have a tournament they always prioritize something else.

This has gone on for ages now and whenever me and my sister disagree or argue our parents side with her blindly without hearing my side or trying to find a solution. My sister joined our family when she was three and I was four so nearly all of our memories are together and my sister does not remember her foster homes. When we have family dinners my sister always gets first choice and gets to pick what we eat when i complain about it my parents say that she can choose because she is diabetic. My house is basically a shrine dedicated to my sister her pictures are everywhere around the house along with a few of my sister and our parents together I've went and counted and there are only three pictures with me in it. Both of our parents profile pictures are my...

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