Amber Trejo, LMFT

Amber Trejo, LMFT Trauma and Attachment Specialist | I help people heal from complex trauma and break the cycle.

Self-compassion is the medicine for trauma survivors ❤️ Be gentle with you.Xoxox,
08/15/2025

Self-compassion is the medicine for trauma survivors ❤️

Be gentle with you.

Xoxox,

Before I had kids, I thought I had fully “healed” from my childhood trauma.So why did my baby’s cries make my chest ache...
08/15/2025

Before I had kids, I thought I had fully “healed” from my childhood trauma.

So why did my baby’s cries make my chest ache?
Why did I freeze when my toddler looked at me with tear-filled eyes, needing comfort?

Motherhood cracked something open.

Not in a broken way-in a revealing way.

Motherhood held up a mirror to my past.
Not to blame.
But to awaken.
To name the grief I once called “normal”
To show me the cycles I was ready to break and the ones I finally had the power to begin.

If this speaks to your bones, drop “course” in the comments or DM me to learn more about Beyond Survival-my course for parents healing their past while raising the future.

If you’re overcompensating, trying to be perfect and desperately trying to be the parent you needed growing up - I hate ...
08/13/2025

If you’re overcompensating, trying to be perfect and desperately trying to be the parent you needed growing up - I hate to break it to you but you’re still parenting from a wounded place.

Once we become the parent we needed for ourselves, we are able to see clearly what our child ACTUALLY needs instead of projecting all of our unmet needs onto them.

That’s why I created Beyond Survival. One of the first courses specifically for parents with childhood trauma who are desperately afraid of passing trauma down to their children. Comment COURSE and I’ll send you all the deets!

Comment COURSE and I’ll send you one of the first parenting courses created SPECIFICALLY for trauma survivors. I created...
08/10/2025

Comment COURSE and I’ll send you one of the first parenting courses created SPECIFICALLY for trauma survivors.

I created this course out of a deep need of my own.
As a complex trauma survivor and mom of 3 littles - I searched EVERYWHERE for parenting advice that worked for me. I found myself CONSTANTLY feeling like a failure. I was trying to be the “perfect” mom for my kids while repeatedly ignoring my own emotions and needs. Once I became a trauma therapist, I realized I had been focused on the WRONG thing. I needed to understand how my own childhood wounds were impacting my parenting and how I could show up for myself so that I could finally show up for my kids in the way they needed.

Sending all the cycle breakers out there so much love!

Xoxox,


Comment or DM me the word “COURSE” and I’ll send you the course I created SPECIFICALLY for parents with childhood trauma...
08/08/2025

Comment or DM me the word “COURSE” and I’ll send you the course I created SPECIFICALLY for parents with childhood trauma.

THIS COURSE IS FOR YOU IF 👇🏻

• You had a traumatic childhood and are terrified you are gonna traumatize your own child
• You find yourself reacting to your children in ways that remind you of your own childhood
• You struggle with emotional regulation, perfectionism, or feeling “never enough”
• You have tried all the parenting advice, all the scripts and still feel like a failure
• You want to create a secure attachment with your children despite not having experienced it yourself
• You’re ready to do the deep healing work that transforms not just your parenting, but your relationship with yourself

6-weeks will completely change the way you parent.

Stop shaming yourself for not knowing something you were never taught ❤️❤️❤️

I used to think love would be enough.That if I just loved them hard enough, I could protect my boys from the ghosts I st...
08/07/2025

I used to think love would be enough.

That if I just loved them hard enough, I could protect my boys from the ghosts I still carried in my nervous system.

But then I found myself snapping.

Shutting down during meltdowns.

Feeling rage I didn’t understand, shame I didn’t deserve, and fear that made no sense until I remembered my past.

This is what parenting with C-PTSD looks like for so many of us.

Not because we’re broken.
Not because we’re bad moms.
But because our bodies are still wired for survival.
And when you were never safe as a child, raising one can trigger every unhealed wound.

I searched everywhere for a parenting expert that could explain to me what was happening inside my body and how to support myself, instead I found posts telling me how bad saying “be careful” was. I found parenting coaches shaming me for not being able to “remain calm.” Telling me to be gentle with my kids but not gentle with myself.

That’s why I created Beyond Survival. One of the first parenting courses SPECIFICALLY for parents with C-PTSD like me.

We don’t shame the patterns.
We understand them.
We meet the rage, the freeze, the panic with compassion.
And we learn how to parent without losing ourselves in the process.

You didn’t choose your trauma.
But you can choose to break the cycle with care, not perfection.

💬Comment “COURSE” and I’ll send you the link to join us.

This year I launched something I had been dreaming up since I became a mother and realized how very hard it was to break...
08/06/2025

This year I launched something I had been dreaming up since I became a mother and realized how very hard it was to break cycles of trauma and abuse. A group coaching program for moms with childhood trauma like me. I met with women from all over the country and other countries too. We connected and I realized I wasn’t alone.

As a mom with an ACE score of 7 out of 10, I found myself absolutely terrified of passing down trauma. I looked everywhere for trauma informed parenting advice and couldn’t find it. I needed tools and there weren’t any so I created them.

The program was a success however I wanted to make it even MORE accessible to people who need it. So I lowered the cost and made it into a self-paced course as well.

I promise you breaking the cycle is easier when you have tools. Comment or DM me the word “COURSE” and I’ll send you one of the first parenting courses designed specifically for parents with childhood trauma.

You can do this.

Follow for more info on healing from complex trauma and the nervous system.

When my kids were little, I struggled with boundaries. Every time I said “no,” my body would go into full panic—tight ch...
05/08/2025

When my kids were little, I struggled with boundaries. Every time I said “no,” my body would go into full panic—tight chest, racing heart, shame flooding in. Why?
Because when I was their age, my “no” never mattered.
Saying no meant punishment, rejection, or worse.

So when I tried to set limits with my own babies… it felt like I was betraying them. Or like I was turning into them (the ones who hurt me).

And don’t even get me started on emotions. 😮‍💨
Their big meltdowns used to send me into survival mode. I found myself walking on eggshells praying they wouldn’t get upset or throw a tantrum. It made me feel so out of control when they did. It felt so familiar to when I was younger and never knew if my parent would fly into a rage unexpectedly. There was a time when I asked my kid to do stuff in an Elmo voice because it was the only thing that worked 🤣🤣🤣

And oh, the nights I lay awake whispering to myself:
“You’re failing. You’re ruining them. You’re not enough. You’re going to pass your trauma down.”

Sound familiar?
If you’re a mom with childhood trauma…this is what cycle-breaking looks like in real life.
It’s messy. It’s holy. And it’s hard as hell some days. As a marriage and family therapist who specializes in working with parents who grew up with abuse and neglect - I’ve realized these struggles happen to ALL of us.

But listen closely:
🌱 Boundaries are bridges, not betrayals.
🌱 Emotions are meant to move through, not be feared.
🌱 Discipline can be firm and kind.
🌱 And whether or not you are a good mom? It was never up for debate. You’ve just been conditioned to hate yourself.

✨Comment WAITLIST to join Beyond Survival—my group coaching program made just for moms healing from childhood trauma while raising the next generation.

We start soon. Let’s walk this road together. 💛✨

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Growing up in wealth doesn’t mean growing up in safety.In many affluent families, money is the leash, a tool to control...
05/02/2025

Growing up in wealth doesn’t mean growing up in safety.

In many affluent families, money is the leash, a tool to control, to silence, to buy compliance. Speak out about the wounds behind the marble walls and you’re called ungrateful. Dismissed. Shamed. Because how could you possibly suffer when your pain was wrapped in privilege?

But trauma doesn’t check your bank balance before it sinks its teeth in.
You are allowed to name what hurt you.
You are allowed to say, this harmed me, even if it came with a trust fund. It doesn’t make you ungrateful.
🔥 If you had childhood trauma comment “guide” and I’ll send you my comprehensive FREE guide on how to heal your nervous system after trauma 🔥
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Have you ever wondered why some kids have gone through traumatic things and seem to come out okay? While other children ...
04/30/2025

Have you ever wondered why some kids have gone through traumatic things and seem to come out okay? While other children appeared to have the “perfect” life and yet struggle with relationships and mental health later on?

The main difference is that the child who went through traumatic things and turned out okay was SAFE to feel their feelings about it and felt they could do so with one or both of their parents.

Meanwhile, the child who appeared to have the “perfect” life may have grown up in a household where they couldn’t share anything with their parents and felt they had to hide who they truly were.

A secure connection and emotionally safe relationship with a parent is one of the biggest predictors of emotional health in children later on.

So what keeps us from being emotionally safe and connected parents? The main thing that gets in the way is our OWN wounds.

That’s why I created Beyond Survival. A parenting group for moms with childhood trauma that focuses on how our wounds show up in our parenting and how to regulate our nervous system, use somatic exercises, regulate our emotions, reparent ourselves and return to playfulness and joy so we can show up for our children in the way they need.

Comment WAITLIST for more information! Payment plans are available!
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Emotional flashbacks aren’t just “feeling too much”—they’re time travel. One sound, one look, one moment, and suddenly y...
04/29/2025

Emotional flashbacks aren’t just “feeling too much”—they’re time travel. One sound, one look, one moment, and suddenly you’re five years old again, begging for safety that never came. This is the invisible weight of Complex PTSD.

If your nervous system feels like it’s always bracing for impact—you’re not broken, you’re a survivor.

Comment “GUIDE” to get my free guide to regulating your nervous system after trauma.
Follow for more info on healing from complex trauma and the nervous system.

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