09/12/2025
Parents and guardians, the greatest protection you can give your children is awareness. Pay attention to the small changes, their mood, behaviour, silence, or sudden fear. These are often the first signs that something is wrong.
Children rarely speak up about abuse or bullying, but their behaviour always tells a story. Stay alert, stay present, and create a safe space where they know they can come to you with anything.🙏
My daughter Felicity, has always been a kind, quiet, yet friendly child who loves to laugh, school & her friends. But When she was 7yrs old, I noticed how all of a sudden, she became distant.
She rarely laughed anymore.
She became withdrawn & stopped being the jovial girl i knew her to be.
This troubled me, i tried asking her what was going on. But Felicity was a child who never liked stirring the waters. She cud protect someone hurting her.
So I pressed on her to tell me what was going on, but she wud say, "nothing."
So I begun praying about it. I genuinely did. Coz my mind imagined the worst. I started keeping a close eye on her just to see if I cud spot out what was troubling my child.
But for weeks, I didnt notice anything.
So I turned to my Father above who knows & sees all. I asked Him to reveal to me what my eyes cud not see & Bring to my knowledge what my ears 👂🏽 cud not hear.
Two days later, for some reason my alarm didnt go off or maybe it did but i just didnt hear it, kaya, so I woke up late.
What was strange is that even without the alarm, I usually wake up on my own by 4. But on this day, for some reason unbeknownst to me then, i didnt wake up. & the alarm didnt ring either. Otherwise awisi Fe who is a light sleeper wud have heard it & woken me up.
So i woke up at around 6, quickly prepared the kids for school & started making their meals to carry. I made their lunches & i started to make their breaktime snacks (polony sandwiches). It took me 5mins tops to make them 🥪 & even put them in their lunch boxes. But something told me, leave them, u r late.
Which doesnt make sense to me coz they were done. All I had to do was put them in the kids' bags. But something kept on telling me to leave them, coz I was late.
So I grabbed my kids & took them to school.
When I got back home, all I did was get the lunch boxes, place them in the bags & I was ready to take them.
But I thought to make lunch for awisi Fe too that i wud drop at his office because he had left without carrying food because I was running late.
I made awisi Fe's breakfast & lunch & within an hour, I was ready to leave.
My first stop was at the kids school.
I carried their bags into the school.
I first went to my son's class & gave him his bag, then I proceeded to Felicity's class.
The moment I reached the door. I heard this noise. At first I was confused as to what it was. But instead of knocking. Something told me to go to the window & see what was happening.
When I got to the window, my heart sunk low😔. That noise i was hearing were children booing.
& guess who they were booing at, my 7yr old daughter while the teacher watched.
I burst the door open only to see Felicity in the centre of the class & all her classmates surrounding her booing her as the teacher watched in amusement.
I was livid 😡🤬.
When Felicity heard my voice & lifted her face from the desk. I saw the most wicked sight i have ever seen in my life, Her eyes were swollen red. Its clear she had been crying.
I turned to the teacher,
Here's the thing. I can fight, trust me I can. But only to defend myself & with fellow women. Ive always been respectful of men because thats what I was raised to know. We were taught to respect men. To never argue with them.
But this was the first time in my life I was ready to go to punches with a man.
I knew he wud eventually overpower me, but I knew I cud have atleast gotten some punches in before then.
I turned to him ready to fight. The shock in his eyes as I walked towards him with fists made. Then Felicity called out "mama", She started walking towards me with arms open as if she wanted me to hold her.
Mwebantu in anger I screamed. I screamed so loud that teachers & students from other classes started running towards my daughters class.
I got my child & went straight to the principles office.
Thats when Felicity explained that they did that to her every day. She was a slow reader, & so every morning they wud do spellings & if she fails to spell or read a word. The teacher wud instruct the other students to boo her. & when she starts to cry. He taught the students that song "cry baby panty,"
& they wud bully her with that song & boo her.
I was so hurt that I screamed again. I walked out of the school with tears rolling down my face screaming on top of my voice. I called my husband & told him what happened.
My husband's office that time was at Cidrz HQ in massmedia just opposite football house.
But he managed to reach my kids school in Avondale in exactly 7mins. How he got there so fast....is between him & ba Rsta.
He walked into the school fuming. Huh, people had to stop him from getting hold of that teacher. He walked out of the car with his neck tie off, jacket off, sleeves rolled up & his church eldership put aside.
People had to restrain him.
The sad part is that the school didnt take any action against the teacher. They just made him apologise.
But we insisted that he apologised to her in class in front of all her classmates. & we made him say to the whole class that he was wrong for making them do that to her.
After the public apology, we took both our kids out of that school.
I was so traumatised that it took me a long time to get that image of Felicity's red eyes out of my head.
After it happened I think I shared it once on the mommy & baby group I was on just to vent. But since then. I've never spoken about this. & this morning as I type this, its clear I haven't yet healed because I found myself shedding tears.
When it happened, we took both our kids out of school & awisi Fe took a few days off work & we went for a weekend get away. We had a talk with Felicity & made her promise to tell us if someone is hurting her or making her sad. We promised her that we wud always show up to protect her no matter what or who.
I'm not too sure what the statute of limitations in Zambia is for emotional distress cases. But I can sue that man. He really hurt me.
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Take time to check in on your kids & take interest to investigate 🔎 when you see changes in your child's personality no matter how minor the change.
& if you fail to get them to open up like I did, then turn to God for help for He is the perfect parent. He does not die & He will never grow old.
May He protect all those you have entrusted in His care.
When your arm of flesh is powerless to help itself. May God reveal to you things that are hidden & protect you & your loved ones from dangers seen & unseen.
This morning I am reminded once again that God can be trusted...& He cares.
🌿🧎🏾♀️🌿Lweendo lwa muna Kristu - to the God who sees, may Glory & Honour be now & forever more. Amen🌿🧎🏾♀️🌿
Goodmorning friends 🧡
Wishing you a blessed week ahead.
