Answered that for you 0.1

11/28/2025

Toxic is when they can’t let you go, but can’t treat you right either.
That’s the kind of connection that keeps you stuck in a loop — held close enough to stay, but hurt just enough to break you a little more each time. They don’t want to lose you, yet they never step up to deserve you. They pull you in with promises, then push you away with their behavior.

They want your presence, but not the responsibility that comes with it.
They want your loyalty, but won’t offer stability.
They want your love, but won’t give you the respect it requires.

This kind of relationship drains you emotionally because you’re constantly trying to understand a person who doesn’t understand themselves. One day they act like you matter more than anything, and the next day they act like you’re asking for too much by wanting the bare minimum.

Toxic isn’t always loud or obvious. Sometimes it’s the quiet inconsistency, the mixed signals, the emotional tug-of-war that keeps your heart hopeful and hurting at the same time.

It’s not love when someone refuses to let you go but refuses to grow with you.
It’s attachment, fear, selfishness — anything but healthy.

And the moment you realize that, you start to understand that letting go isn’t losing them…
it’s finally choosing yourself.
“Andy Burg”

11/28/2025

Your dad is still watching over you and cheering you on from heaven. Every step you take, every challenge you face, he’s there in spirit—guiding you, protecting you, and reminding you that you are capable of more than you realize. Even when life feels heavy or the road seems impossible, he’s quietly standing beside you, sending strength, courage, and love to keep you moving forward. Remember the lessons he taught you, the laughter you shared, and the warmth of his presence—they are still alive in your heart. Keep going, keep believing in yourself, and know that every success, every smile, every moment of growth is something he celebrates with you from above. You are never truly alone, for his love and pride are woven into every part of your journey.
“Andy Burg”

11/28/2025

The older I get, the more I understand why some people choose to disappear and live a quiet, private life.
It’s not about bitterness, isolation, or giving up on the world — it’s about finally realizing how precious peace truly is. As you grow, you start to see how draining constant drama, fake friendships, shallow conversations, and chaotic environments can be. You learn that not everyone deserves access to you, your energy, or your softness.

Silence becomes comforting.
Privacy becomes protection.
Distance becomes clarity.

You stop explaining yourself. You stop announcing your moves. You stop entertaining people who only take from you. Instead, you choose spaces where you can breathe, heal, and grow without noise or judgment. You choose relationships that are steady. You choose routines that bring calm. You choose solitude because it feels safer than crowds that never cared.

Some people don’t disappear because they’re broken — they disappear because they’ve finally learned the value of a peaceful life.
And honestly, there’s nothing more freeing than that.
“Andy Burg”

11/28/2025

PSYCHOLOGICAL FACT:
Suicidal thoughts are often a sign of overwhelming emotional pain, not an actual desire to die. Many people who experience them don’t truly want their life to end — they want the pain to end. They’re exhausted, isolated, and silently hoping someone will notice the heaviness they’re carrying.

These thoughts can be a cry for understanding, comfort, and relief. They often come from feeling trapped, unheard, or emotionally overloaded. When people reach that point, they’re usually searching for a lifeline — a person who will listen without judgment, remind them they’re not alone, and help them see options they can’t see in the moment.

It’s important to take these feelings seriously, whether they’re your own or someone else’s.
Reaching out for support is not weakness — it’s survival.

If you ever feel this way or find yourself overwhelmed by emotional pain, please reach out to someone who can help right now. Talking to a friend, a trusted person, or a mental health professional can make an enormous difference. You don’t have to navigate that darkness alone.

If you’re in immediate danger or thinking about harming yourself, please contact your local emergency services or a su***de hotline right away. In the U.S., you can dial 988 for immediate support. If you’re outside the U.S., look up your local hotline — someone is always ready to listen.
“Andy Burg”

11/28/2025

Make sure you are disgusted by your own sins as much as you are by others’.
Because it’s always easier to judge what someone else is doing wrong than it is to confront our own flaws, our own habits, our own shortcomings. But real growth — real maturity — starts when you hold yourself to the same standard you hold everyone else to.

It’s simple to point fingers.
It’s harder to look in the mirror.

Before criticizing someone else’s choices, ask yourself if you’ve addressed your own. Before calling out someone’s mistakes, make sure you’re not ignoring the ones you continue to repeat. Hypocrisy thrives when we expect perfection from others while excusing ourselves.

Humility means acknowledging that you’re not above the things you condemn. Self-awareness means understanding that every person fights a battle, and sometimes you’ve fought — or still fight — the same ones.

Judge less.
Reflect more.
And remember: improvement starts within, not around you.
“Andy Burg”

11/28/2025

11/27/2025

A person in 2 months can make you feel what a person in 2 years didn’t.
Because time doesn’t automatically build connection — character does. Someone with genuine intentions, emotional maturity, and real consistency can walk into your life and show you more honesty, care, and stability in a short period than someone you spent years trying to understand.

Two months with the right person can feel peaceful, grounding, and effortless. They communicate clearly. They show up without being asked. They make you feel seen, heard, valued, and safe. Their presence doesn’t drain you — it adds to you.

Two years with the wrong person can feel exhausting. You keep waiting for change, hoping for effort, settling for crumbs, excusing patterns, and convincing yourself it will get better. But no amount of time can fix someone who lacks the character to love you properly.

Time measures duration.
Character measures intention.

And when someone’s character is aligned with your heart, it doesn’t take long for them to show you what genuine love and respect actually feel like.
“Andy Burg”

11/27/2025

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11/27/2025

Once she detaches, that’s it.
You’ll never get the same version of her again, because the moment she chooses to let go, she’s already accepted a truth she didn’t want to face. Her lesson has been learned in silence, in all the ways she begged to be understood, heard, or valued. She doesn’t detach suddenly—she detaches slowly, piece by piece, after giving chance after chance, hoping something would change.

By the time she’s done, she’s not angry. She’s not emotional. She’s not looking back. She just knows better now. She moves differently, guards her heart more carefully, and refuses to shrink herself for anyone ever again.

You can still apologize, still try, still promise… but she’ll never be that same woman—because the version you broke is gone, and the version she became is stronger, wiser, and unreachable in ways you never expected.
“Andy Burg”

11/27/2025

Never date a man who has abandoned his kids or fails to support them.
Because a man who can walk away from his own children, who can ignore the very people who carry his name and depend on him, is showing you exactly who he is. A man who isn’t loyal to his children will never be loyal to anyone — not to you, not to a relationship, not even to the values he claims to stand for.

A father’s responsibility is not optional. It’s not something he picks up when convenient and drops when life gets hard. The way he treats his own kids reveals his true character more than anything else. If he can’t show up for the people who came from him, he won’t magically show up for you.

Don’t romanticize potential. Don’t convince yourself you’ll be the exception. Integrity doesn’t change just because someone finds a new relationship. Pay attention to how he loves, protects, and provides — not just for you, but for his children.

Because choosing a man who honors his responsibilities isn’t just about standards.
It’s about self-respect.
“Andy Burg”

11/27/2025

I once killed a plant by watering it too much, and that’s how I learned that even good intentions can be harmful in excess.
Sometimes we pour so much of ourselves into something — or someone — believing we’re helping, nurturing, protecting — only to realize we’re suffocating what we’re trying to save.

Over-giving can drain you.
Over-loving can blind you.
Over-trying can push people away.

It’s a painful lesson: too much of anything, even love, can become destructive when it isn’t balanced with boundaries, patience, and space. Growth needs consistency, not constant pressure. Support needs sensitivity, not smothering.

That plant taught me what many relationships later confirmed — you can have the purest intentions, but if you ignore the needs of the other side, misunderstand the signals, or keep giving without awareness, you might unintentionally cause harm.

Sometimes the healthiest thing you can do is step back, breathe, and give things room to grow on their own. Balance protects what love alone cannot.
“Andy Burg”

11/27/2025

People make time for who they truly want to make time for.
People text, call, and respond to the ones they genuinely want to stay connected with. Effort is never confusing when it’s real — it’s consistent, intentional, and natural.

When someone cares, they don’t let messages sit unread for days. They don’t use “busy” as a shield. They find a moment, even in the middle of chaos, to check in. They remember you. They miss you. They make space for you in their life because you matter to them.

“Too busy” is almost always an excuse. No one is too busy for someone they value. People make time for their priorities, their interests, their comforts, and their connections. If they wanted to talk to you, they would. If they wanted to be around you, they’d show up. If they wanted you in their life, you wouldn’t feel like you’re begging for presence.

Don’t cling to someone who treats communication like a burden. Don’t romanticize inconsistency. Don’t chase what’s clearly not choosing you.

Energy doesn’t lie.
Effort reveals the truth.
“Andy Burg”