Adel Coetzee - Betrayal Recovery

11/04/2026

You don’t realise your worth all at once…
you realise it in the moment you stop accepting less. 🤍

10/04/2026

Advanced Coaching – Part 2, Day 2…

There’s something about being in a space like this that reminds you how much depth there is to people… and how often it goes unseen.

It’s not about having all the answers. It’s about asking the right questions… and being willing to sit in the uncomfortable moments where real change happens.

One conversation at a time, you start to see shifts.
In perspective. In awareness. In the way someone sees themselves.And that’s where it matters.
Not in big, loud breakthroughs… but in the quiet moments where something finally clicks.

Blessed to be growing through this process myself, while helping others do the same.

👌🏻🌸

09/04/2026

Most people don’t realise this until much later...

08/04/2026

I know how convincing it can be…
When someone shows you just enough of who they could be, it’s very easy to hold onto that version of them.

You start filling in the gaps.
Making sense of the inconsistencies.
Giving the benefit of the doubt… again and again.

Not because you’re blind — but because you’re trying to be fair.

At some point, though, you have to stop asking:
“What could this become?” …and start looking at what it actually is.

02/04/2026

You weren’t hard to love ...

01/04/2026

31/03/2026

There’s something no one really talks about. Not openly. Not honestly. Especially not in spaces where people are supposed to feel safe.

A lot of women are walking away from relationships confused… not just hurt. Confused because the person who broke them spoke about God, values, leadership, and purpose better than anyone they had ever met. And yet… behind closed doors, something didn’t add up.

The inconsistency...
The subtle control...
The way everything somehow became your fault.
The way you slowly started losing your voice, your clarity… yourself.

And the hardest part? Watching them move on
as if nothing ever happened while you’re left trying to make sense of something that never made sense to begin with.

This page isn’t about blaming. And it’s not about playing the victim. It’s about naming what’s real.
The patterns. The dynamics. The things that are often hidden behind “good character,” titles, or spiritual language.

Because once you can see it clearly… you can stop questioning yourself. And that’s where healing actually starts...

19/03/2026

Women supporting women! Today we celebrated International Women's Day and I did a short talk about emotional wellbeing. What a pleasure to have shared stories and experiences with the woman we spend most of our days with.

16/03/2026

This wasn’t something that happened overnight… over years, I found myself wrestling with things I never expected to question.

For most of my life I believed that doubt was something you were supposed to keep quiet. That questioning meant something was wrong with your faith. That anger, confusion, or frustration with what you see around you in religion was something you should quickly push aside...

But life has a way of forcing you to look at things more honestly...

There were seasons where I questioned almost everything I had been taught ... weeks and months of silence... Moments of anger... Times where I pulled apart ideas I had accepted for years without ever examining them for myself...

Not because I wanted to destroy anything... but because something inside me needed to know what was real.

And somewhere in that process I realised something important: questioning isn’t the enemy of faith ... sometimes it’s the beginning of a deeper understanding...

When you strip away performance, tradition, cultural expectations, and the ways we as humans sometimes reshape our idea of God through our own fears, pride, or upbringing, you end up standing in a much quieter place...

A place where belief is no longer something you simply inherited...

It becomes something you’ve wrestled with ... thought about ... and slowly rebuilt from the ground up...

That process changes how you see the world ... It changes how you see people. It changes how you think about love ... power ...humility ...and the ways belief can sometimes be used to elevate some while quietly silencing others...

I wouldn’t have chosen the experiences that forced me into that kind of reflection... but I am grateful for what the process itself has given me: the freedom to ask honest questions ... the courage to think deeply ... and a faith that no longer depends on someone else’s understanding of God...

Because sometimes the most sincere faith is not the one that never questions... it's the one that has wrestled with the questions… and stayed.

Blessings beautiful people.
Ax

15/03/2026

Let's talk about the ego. Not the loud, obvious version people like to point out in others ... the quieter one that grows almost unnoticed when attention becomes a kind of currency.

The ego has a strange way of feeding on admiration ... on being noticed ... on being desired... on the subtle sense of importance that comes when people look your way a little longer than they should...

And the difficult thing about the ego is that it is rarely satisfied for long - the more it is fed, the more it wants.

Scattered through scripture and even old texts are quiet cautions about pride ... about the danger of the human heart when it begins to delight to much in its own reflection...

“Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall... "

The human heart can easily become intoxicated with its own importance if it isn’t watched carefully... because admiration feels good... being wanted feels good... being noticed feels good.

But those things were never meant to become the centre of a person’s character. In fact, real character is usually far quieter... It’s the ability to walk past attention without needing to gather it... to value depth more than admiration... to recognise that integrity is often built in the moments where no one is watching and no one is applauding...

And maybe that’s the real test that life quietly brings our way. Not whether we can attract attention... oh no, that part is easy... But it's whether we can live in a way that doesn’t need it...

Blessings beautiful people.
Ax

14/01/2026

Toe het ek besluit om weer te begin hardloop... na baie, baie jare, het ek geweet dit gaan swaar wees … maar ek was nie voorbereid vir die feit dat asemhaal n voltydse werk gaan raak nie. Binne minute was my longe in volle krisis … loud en super dramaties … . Daar was oomblikke waar ek seriously gewonder het of ek nou oefen of besig is om stilletjies te dooi ...

My bene was effens confused ...En my brein … wel … hy het vinnig besef ons is nie hier om iemand te impress nie. Dit was full on survival mode ..

En toe … êrens tussen hyg, sweet, en onderhandel met my liggaam tot by die volgende hoek … het ek begin smile...

Hardloop voel nou anders … geen druk nie … geen verwagtinge nie. Ek jaag nie ou tye nie .... Ek daag net op … ek gee wat ek het daardie dag … party dae voel ek sterk, en ander dae voel soos chaos met tekkies aan...
.. en deur dit alles ... is dit meer pret as ooit ...

Nie perfeksie nie. Nie prestasie nie. Net om iets moeiliks te doen, in te skryf vir jou eie chaos, en dan halfpad te besef jy is te moeg om op te hou...

My runs is om te draf soos iemand wat hardloop ... maar eintlik net vinnig te stap ...met ambisie, I might add ...En tog … steeds klaar te maak. Selfs al klink jy soos ’n stofsuier op sy laaste been...

Wish me luck mooiste mense ... hierdie is nie vir die faint hearted nie 🤣

Ax