13/09/2020
Positive images of Alkebulan marriages from the 60's. Please comment positively in support of my parents as the photo is highly personal. I needed to use something real and close to me. Within 6 months my dad had paid lobola 'dowry' and later that year they were married.
They had 3 children. It was during the time when our country was highly colonised so an additional ceremony was added to our weddings, the white wedding. I dont want to dwell into that as we are changing it now.
I want to touch a bit on the fact that in order for my dad to make money for the family, he had to live in the city while mom lived with us in township close to the rural area where he was born.
Secondly my mom had 3 children with my dad. He came home regularly and we went to visit him as well.
Thirdly I hardly know any black child who does not have a father. All my friends had fathers. Our fathers came home with money to pay for our expenses and they had to leave again to work in the city or mines. A lot of sacrifices were made by our fathers who built this countrys wealth, infrastructure and economy and our mothers who were forced to live without their husbands. The colonisers made the money we did not. However, our family structures were broken.
Do we still see the same rate of marriage proposals as we did back then? Do we have the same sacrifice, commitment and loyalty? Or are too busy fighting to get rid of the dowry system instead of focussing on finding love, settling and building an empire? Do we not find value in the family structure anymore since our fathers were taken away to work in the mines and factories. Is it ok to just accept that the black images are that of fatherless children. When you look around you at your immediate friends and family, non of them are. That's how the monopoly system has thanked us by painting that picture of our Alekebulan men. They do not disappear. They were taken away to work on the mines and factories far far away!!! That has its generational effects that we see today.
That brings me to say. That was part of the agenda of the destruction of our family systems. It has now escalated to fathers being killed by police and falsely incarcerated. We are however now also playing into it as if we are choosing it by choosing not to marry (dowry & general complaints about women expecting men to pay for all expenses), idealising the single woman status (pushed by the agenda-most colonisers women get married before the age of 25 and stay married till death), men are trash ( I can bet you my last dollar the algorithms push this agenda on to our timelines).
We need to wake up to the fact that we were wealthy with land, animals, and we farmed our crops. We bartered and therefore had our own economy. Built our homes, lived in polygamous set ups as well. Colonisers introduced christianity which frowned upon this yet it made our homes function better. We looked after widows and the elderly. Everyone was taken care of in a family unit.
Are going to do something about restoring the Alkebulan family structure? Where do we start.
If you are going to share, please may I ask that you copy the story and use your own parents picture as I do not have permission to use my parents picture and my father is late. The post is safe within the Alkebulan group but when it leaves this group it will get hate from the colonisers and I would not want that on my dads photo. I just wanted to share some of my concerns and start a dialogue with you that can move us forward and help us restore our Alkebulan culture and family structures. I would like everyone who sees this to positively comment into the topic as to spark a dialogue about this. Kenneth and I are still want to do a podcast and this is the centre of our worries. It could very well finally lead to that long awaited podcast between CHARLOTTE, NORTH CAROLINA AND DURBAN, SOUTH AFRICA. Thank you for the love, likes and follows. Kenneth and I need to commit to posting more often for the love you have shown even in our absence. ❤