08/12/2025
[Khethile Khethile]
Warm greetings Njabs and the Lift Off family please keep me anonymous I don't know if I am just venting or I need advice.
I am a 27-year-old female, for the past 3 years I have been seeing this married man. Our relationship was nice until I started feeling like I need a stable life with a stable relationship, I asked this man ukuthi where is our relationship going but he just never gave me a straight answer, so I decided to break up with him ngafonela umkakhe and told her about our relationship nendoda yakhe. Ngangifuna nje bonke bezwe ubuhlungu the way that I was hurting
Few days after I dumped him wangifonela and told me he wants to marry me angenze umamncane, when I asked him what changed he told me that his wife sat down with him and told him that he must marry me if he wants to, so it has become easier for him because his wife doesn't have a problem with our relationship.
Omunye umuntu would think I am happy because I finally got what I wanted but I'm not happy, this is not the way I expected becoming his wife.
Mina, I wanted him to be the one that initiates and fights for our relationship konke kusuke kuye but now since his marrying me because his wife said he must.
I can't stop wondering if akazange athi akangithathe was he gonna let me go and allow our relationship to die.
This whole thing doesn't feel genuine and his wife being okay with me being his wife makes me feel scared ngathi khona akuhlelile.
Angazi whether kufanele ngivume or khona ingozi engingayiboni mina, Nina ningenza njani kwesami isimo?