25/12/2025
People talk about codependency like it’s a flaw, weakness, something shameful. Most people who struggle with codependency are actually some of the most loving humans you’ll ever meet.
They feel deeply, give endlessly, stay when others leave, try harder, longer, quieter. They don’t love halfway but love with whole nervous system.
Codependency it’s a survival skill that often starts in childhood; learning that love means pleasing, fixing, staying quiet, staying loyal… no matter the cost to yourself. So later in life, that same pattern shows up in relationships.
They believe that if we just love harder, stay patient, avoid conflict, or hold on long enough… everything will be okay. But here’s the painful truth most of us learn the hard way:
Love alone cannot save someone who doesn’t want to change. Love cannot heal someone else’s wounds for them. Love doesn’t work if it requires you to disappear. That realization hurts. A lot.
Because codependent people often carry deep, unspoken resentment… because their love was never met, never protected, never returned in the same way.
Healing doesn’t mean loving less but it means loving with boundaries. Understanding that your only real responsibility is your side of the street. Your honesty, needs, limits.
Sometimes the most loving thing you can do… is step back. To finally choose yourself. 🤍
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