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NkyLaw, Pretoria (2025)

04/11/2025

Good morning Barrister. I have been having sl££pless nights because my husband is claiming my property. He says we own it together. The property was written in my name. I work with the Fed government, he works with the local government.

It was the Ministry that I work that allocated the house for me. He helped me in paying part of the m0ney for the said property, but the property was written in my name right from day 1 in the office where I worked and retired. I have been paying the land use charge in the name that the property is allocated to me.

One day, when I was too busy in my shop, l ask my husband to go and help me pay for the land use charge. After the payment, I realized that he has changed the name from my own name that came with the allocation letter from my office. That made me to make a move and go to Alausa at lkeja to verify, l went there with the documents in my hand, which my name is written.

On getting there, l explain everything that has happen to them. They help me to check on their computer and saw that it was Mr & Mrs our name that was there. My initial was not there. The people at the land use charge office ask for my original documents, which l presented, they now scan and correct it with my full name that was on my documents.

The issue l,m now having is that, my husband is claiming equal rights because he helped me with some amount when I wanted to pay for the said property. Our marriage has already h!t the rock. Also there's no child between us from the marriage. We did court marriage. We have been living together since the year March 1993.

But we we went to the Marriage registry in year 2002. I have been with for the past 31 years, before I realized last year that I was the wife No 7. His former wives gave birth to children for him, while I don't have any children for him. Both of us are fed up with the marriage, because there's no peace between us again. Kindly advise me on how to go about my property, so that my own Will not be in vain.

Also I want a divorce by all means, but I don't know how to go about it. All the wives showed up while I'm married to him. My husband has búrñt all our wedding pictures since last year, l,m no longer interested in the marriage again.

When l told him to excuse me and give me space in my house, he's not ready to go, he says the property is Mr And Mrs which I have gone to land use charge office to correct. There's no int!m@cy between us since 2017. We have divided the rooms which we are using together b4. I totally fed up with this marriage.

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04/11/2025

Good evening ma. Pls help me what can I do. My husband and his family deceive me into marriage knowing fully well that he is a psychí@tr!c pati£nt taking drú_g since 2016 without me being involved.

We got married last year June and I noticed this year he is b£having somehow. I ask him about the drú_g and he told me It is sl££ping drú_gs which is not.

I want out of the marriage. What should I do ma. It is a registry marriage

04/11/2025

***Can you rec0ver the m0n£y pl£dges from your committee of friends if they fa!l to fulfill it after the event?***

It's no longer new that in Nigeria, many people start creating WhatsApp and other groups' platforms to add all their friends and phone contacts for the purpose of getting fin@ncia| support either for their wedding or buri@l ceremony.

The fact that the people you added made promises to you does not mean you can go after them to recover the m0n£y if they fa!l to fulfill their promises.

The only conditions upon which you can recover the m0n£y they promised you are:

1. You must have offered for the person to support you and the person accepted to support you.

2. You must show you have "furnished consideration". That is, you must have done something that has value for that person in exchange for him to support your marriage.
If there is no exchange of commitments to make it a binding contract, you don't have a case.

3. There must have been an intention from the beginning for the promise to be legally binding.

If you cannot prove this points, you cannot go after the person to fulfill the promise.

Before you set out to marry, make sure you are fin@ncia||y stable to sp0nsor your marriage and not plan a marriage with the hope that committee of friends will support you fin@ncia||y. Plan your occasion according to your pocket.

Some of you will never reach out to know how people are faring, but when you have an occasion, you remember you have their contacts and start adding them to your committee of friends.

Learn not to just add a person to your committee of friends WhatsApp group without informing the person first and getting consent.

If you know the true meaning of committee of friends, you will know it's not an indirect committee for b£ggiñg for m0n£y.

Committee of friends is supposed to take charge and help you organize your events so you don't go through str£ss. They are your event planners.

They are supposed to share responsibilities as to who will be in charge of drinks, who will ensure smooth serving of foods, who will follow-up with venue arrangements etc and not a platform for asking for m0n£y so you can marry.

If someone does not support, you start keeping m@lic£ with the person. Will the person also enjoy the marital benefits with you?

If you don't have m0n£y, wait till you have because what l!es ahead of the marriage is bigger than the wedding ceremony.

04/11/2025

***What happens when bride price was not collected on the day of the traditional marriage? Is that marriage valid?***

The first thing you need to understand is that payment of bride price is the most important part of customary/traditional marriage in Nigeria.

The bride price is what makes the marriage to be valid and exist.

Even if the man provides everything in the marriage list and did not p@y bride price, you are not married.

If he offers to p@y bride price and your family waived it by not collecting it, the marriage does not exist.

Traditional marriage is not just a ceremony, it has legal cons£qu£nces if not done according to the Customary laws of Nigeria which recognizes good customs.

As a woman, if your father waived the collection of bride price, the law might not recognize you as a married woman. When pr0bl£ms come out of that marriage and you ruñ to a customary court as a woman married under customary law, the court will not be able to h£lp you under customary matrimonial laws because your bride price was not paid. Your case will be treated like that of boyfriend and girlfriend matter.

However, if the custom of your people does not generally require for the payment of bride price, then the law will recognize it and use what your culture uses as symbol of marriage to decide whether you are married or not.

If your culture requires payment of bride price but your father decided to waive it as a symbol that he is not s£ll!ng his daughter, your marriage is not recognized.

If you fall under this category, quickly tell your father (or anyone playing fatherly figure) to organize a meeting with your husband and collect the bride price.

It doesn't have to be the whole am0unt, he can collect ₦100 as symbol of bride price to give you legal prot£ctio0n when issues come up.

If you have issues tomorrow and you want to separate from your husband, there will be no need for divorce because bride price was not paid.

Even if you file for divorce in a customary court, the court will thr0w out the case because no marriage exist for the court to end.

For the court to end a traditional marriage, it needs to declare the return of bride price, except the husband waived the return of bride price.

04/11/2025

If you are tired of your marriage and your wife's family r£fuse to return your bride price after several demands, stop str£ss!ng yourself.

If all you both had was a customary/traditional marriage, the marriage is not w0rking, you don't want to be recognized as her husband again and you want to remarry without going into a polygamous marriage of marrying more than one wife, there are many legally recognized ways of end!ng the marriage.

1. If you have demanded for the return of the bride price and they are using you to pl@y football, stop str£ss!ng yourself as long as your l!fe does not depend on the bride price.

Get two adult witnesses and visit whomever stands as a father for her. In the presence of the person, declare that you are d0ne with the marriage, cut all marital t!es with her and that you are waiving the return of bride price.

What many people don't know is that bride price must not be returned. You can waive it and dash them the m0ney. For as long as you have declared you are not marrying again and waived it, the marriage is over.

Those two adults will serve as witnesses of your divorce. You can even record it for documentary evidence.

2. You can go to a customary court and file for divorce against your wife. If you are from the East, use a customary court in the East. Same thing applies to those from the West, South and North. If you are based in Abuja, you can use any customary court in FCT even if you are not from there because it's federal.

Ask the court to declare the marriage over and that the bride price should be paid to the court and you will come get it or that you still waive the bride price.

Once the court makes the order, the marriage is over!

Stop holding on to a cu|túral practice that requires you to carry calabash, keg of palm wine and palm frond in your mouth to go and br£ calabash.

***For women, if he refuse to collect the bride price for you to be free,

1. Take it to his kinsmen or whomever stands as the father for him. If they refuse to collect it,

2. Take it to the traditional ruler of his village and deposit it there. If the traditional ruler refuse to collect it,

3. Go to a customary court as explained above and file for divorce.

4. If he paid the bride price via transfer, transfer it back to his bank account and write "Bride price refund".

5. Some people even send it by dispatch rider. If he accepts the dispatch, you have refunded it. If he sends it back to you, go through the court.

Don't be frústr@ted because a spouse you don't want anymore does not want to s£t you free.

If children are involved, file for custody or access in court or file for divorce, and also ask for custody, child support and access to children for the other parent.

***NOTE: If you have the recognized marriage certificate that has Coat of Arms and FORM E written on it, just know that you had a statutory marriage and return of bride price does not £nd the marriage. You must use a lawyer for a divorce case in a High Court.

04/11/2025

***What happens when you are sú£d and you refuse to appear in court for the m@tter?***

If someone files a c@se against you in court, the person must ensure that you are served the court papers.

This will enable you know what acti0n the person brought ag@inst you and the date the case will be coming up in court for the first time.

As soon as you receive the court papers, you are expected to go through it carefully and respond to it. You can get a lawyer to respond for you in writing or you respond by yourself or appear in court without responding in writing, depending on the court. It's best to use a lawyer.

If you refuse to go to court, the court will give another court date and you will be informed again through "hearing notices" papers.

If you still refuse to be in court, the case will go on without you, you will continue to receive the hearing notices with the new dates and based on what the person who su£d you is asking for, the court will pass judgment which will not favour you.

Once the person has gotten judgm£nt, the person will come you to enf0rce the judgm£nt and there is nothing you will be able to do because you were given fair hearing which is your fundamental right but you refused to be heard.

Don't think because you refused to appear in court, that the case will not continue or that judgment will not favour that person.

You are actually doing y0urself for avoiding the court.

Always make sure you respond to any court case because you might not be able to ch@ll£nge the judgm£nt of the court, if it's not in your favour.

For example, if you are su£d over a custody case and you don't go because the children are already with you, custody might be given to the person who came to court and you will just see him/her appear at your door with police officers to c0ll£ct the children from you. T£ will not s@ve you.

If your landlord su£s you and you refuse to appear in court, after judgm£nt, he will just appear with court officials in your house to throw your things out in a sh@m£ful way or s£íze some of your property, if you are owing him because the court ordered it in your absence.

Never ignore a court summ0n!

03/11/2025

Yeah! I want to sincerely appreciate my follower Joseph that took it upon himself to help me edit the only picture I have of me and my late parents and I did not want to l0se it.

This picture is special to me and I have kept it for many years since I l0st my mother, 21 years ago.

I posted the picture here to share memories of how I nurtured the desire to be a lawyer from the age of 8 and without asking anyone to edit it, he did it. 💃💃💃

Someone else Nweze Agility also sent me an edited version of just me and I am very grateful too. 🙏🙏

I should enlarge this picture because it nurtures stories about me, my life journey, my profession, my passion and how I transitioned into being an 0rphan.

What do you think about the edited version, is it different from the original copy or it's 100/100? 😂

03/11/2025

Good evening madam NKYLAW, please I want to get some teachers arr£st£d in my children school.

When I went to pick up my children today, my daughter told me that their teachers was talking about me that I have a non-ch@llant attitude and char@cter, that my daughter should not take after my attitude and character.

Just because my son forg0t his books at home and his teacher and other teacher started talking about me to the level of them telling my daughter not to beh@ve like me . Say my son carry my lifestyle that is why his behaviors is like that of his father.

I want to get them arr£st£d and su£ them for def0rmati0n of names and character.

Please what did law talk about it

03/11/2025

Good evening NKy Law,, i have been following you for a while now seriousely i must commend you for this l!fe s@ving mission you are doing my God will bless ma. Pls hid my identity my story goes like this...my immediate younger sister got pregn@nt and my parents drove her from home to the man that got her pr£gn@nt, so she manage and gave birth to a baby girl, so she took the baby to the hospital for immúniz@tion and my sister ask a woman to help hold the child she want to ur!n@te, that was how my sister run aw@y and left the baby

so the woman took the child to the police station and two days later my mum did not see my sister and in the process of finding her she went to the station and she f0und her granddaughter without the mother. So i was called and at the end I took the baby started nursing the child (mind you i am a single lady working in private school) to help this baby i had to work in 2-3 schools every day to raise m0ney for milk NAN (the baby was two months) so i was into a str0ng relationship with an igbo guy which we have done our introduction but when i narrated how i got the baby, missund£rst@ñding chip in and i l0st the relationship that he will not marry a lady that has a baby,

So i miss 5 of my respected relationship because of that baby. ( Mind you her real mom hasn't show up) so when my husband came i explained everything to him and we got married still this girl is with me at 7 her mum came with s!ckñ£ss and she d! £. So i nurture this girl from 2 months to 18 years this year. I sponsor this girl' without the help of any of my people, my husband took part like he is her real father, but my mother's younger sister met with her during a bur! in my father's house telling her that she is staying with me while her father is a millionaire and she collectd her number

so she came back and told me and i called my father's younger sister and reported that my anty. But something went wr0ng again my mother's younger sister gave that man the number of my daughter and the man started calling her that he is her real father. ( She is in her final year Diploma in Federal Polytechnic) so without our conseñt he m@nipul@ted and send money for her she came down to his house and when we call her she refuse to p!ck our calls.

Now my moms younger sister she claiming right that we have s0|d the girl to Kaduna people so the girl need to go back to her real father. Ma this issue has cause me and my family alots my husband has been on s!ck b£d for tr@úma and my BP is h!gh. Pls what can i do. Thanks

03/11/2025

Do not buy land/property in the name of a child below 21 years.

Many parents buy land/property in the name of their children with the hope of prot£ct!ng their children's inh£rit@nce from family members and friends who will want to take all these when they are d£ and l£aving their children £mpty handed.

Even though you are doing it to pr0t£ct your children, what you have done is wr0ñg in the eyes of the law and the purchase is not v@lid.

Buying a land/property in the name of a child is automatically inv@l!d. The Land Use Act states that anybody below the age of 21 cannot acquire land and the Child Rights Act also provide that a person below 18 years is a child and is not capable of entering any v@lid agreement or contr@ct.

If you buy in a child's name, who signs the agreement? If you sign any signature for the child, it also makes the agreement inv@lid because the parties to the document must sign by themselves.

Where any of the parties is an ill!ter@te, the content of the document will be read to the person and the person will thumbprint before it becomes valid. You can see you cannot also argue that your child is an illit£rate.

You cannot also write your child's name and sign your signature there. This also makes the purchase agreement inv@lid because the name and owner of signature must be the same. Signature has a very strong f0rc£ and power in law.

If the person you purchased the land/property from on behalf of your child knows the law very well and knows that you bought it in your child's name, the person can resell the land/property to another buyer and you won't be able to take legal actions ag@inst the seller for reselling your land/property and you won't be able to su£ anyone who h!j@cks the land/property.

This is because you are not the owner of the land/property and the law does not recognize you. It does not matter whether you made the payment for the land/property.

Also, your child will not be able to take legal actions because the purchase by your child is already inv@lid.

You might £nd up l0s!ng your m0ney and the land or you start ch@siñg the seller to recover your m0ney.

There are ways a child can validly acquire land/property in Nigeria and they are:

1. Through a Guardian. This means that you will buy the land/property in your name or in the name of any trusted adult and state in the agreement that you are purchasing the land/property on behalf of the child and that once the child reaches 21 years, you will transfer ownership of the land/property to the child.

The Guardian will take all decisions concerning the land/property and can even sell the land/property except it is expressly mentioned that the Guardian will not have the p0wer to sell.

The dis@dvantage of guardianship is that if the child d!£s before reaching 21 years, the Guardian will be able to sell the land/property and claim the m0ney, except there is an agreement that states what will happen if the child d!£s before 21 years or the guardian d!£s before the child reaches 21 years.

2. Through Inh£ritañce. This means that the land/property you purchased will automatically become the inh£ritance of your surv!v!ng children when you d!£. The disadvantage here is that, your children will l0s£ their inheritance if they don't know their inheritance rights and allow family int!m!d@te them.

3. Preparing a Will. You can buy a land in your name and Will it immediately to your child. This means that you must prepare a Will. A Will allows a child to acquire property even though the child is not up to 21 years.

The disadvantage with a Will is that the property cannot be transferred to your child until you d!£ and the Will is read. If the child reaches 21 years before you d!£, you can c@ncel the Will and then prepare a deed of gift.

4. Prepare a Deed of Gift. This allows you to buy the land in your name, engage the services of a lawyer for a Deed of Gift to be prepared so you can declare that you are giving the property to your child as a gift.

With this, the property automatically becomes that of the child named in the Deed even though the child is below 21 years. This is the best way to buy property for your children. You also cannot take back the gift once you have signed it.

If you have already made the m!st@ke of buying land/property in your child's name, quickly take steps now to correct it. Go back to the seller and have another agreement prepared in your name and not the name of your child.

If you don't act fast and someone h!j@cks the land, it is gone! If you d!£ before the child reaches 21 years, the seller can still h!j@ck it. At the end, the child you want to pr0tect will still l0se out because you f@iled to follow legally recognized ways of getting a land/property for a child.

02/11/2025

***What makes marriage work and is it possible to avoid d!v0rce?***

Yes! Marriages work and a couple can stay for many years without having unnecessary issu£s if they are ready to make it work. Before you go into marriage you need to be matured. Marriage maturity is different from age maturity. You can be older in age but lack the maturity that marriage requires.

If you follow all these tips, your marriage will be near perfect.👇

1. Love: Don't go into marriage with someone you don't love even if the other person loves you. The love needs to be mutual so the person being loved doesn't feel like he/she is being done a favour.

2. Mutual respect: You need to understand that your spouse is a human being like you and also deserves respect. If you know the kind of respect you desire, give same to your partner. Many marriages are h!tt!ñg the r0ck because one partner keeps demanding for respect but is not ready to give the other partner the same respect. If you marry someone who doesn't appreciate the principle of mutual respect, there is bound to be pr0bl£ms.

3. Communication: Know how to communicate to your partner. If you want to communicate your happiness, s@dn£ss and £r, do it in a non t0x!c way that your partner will understand. Learn to communicate with words of mouth and avoid too much b0dy language because your partner might misinterpret it and react in a way you are not exp£cting. Don't expect your partner to understand your b0dy language if you don't communicate it. Before marriage, discuss with your partner and agree on mode of communication to avoid misinterpretations.

4. Ability to apologize: If you are married to someone who doesn't apol0gize even when they are wr0ng, it will affect the h£ of your marriage. Some people find it h@rd to open their mouths and say I am sorry but would use conducts to show they are sorry. It's still acceptable but learn to apologize and know when your partner is apologizing by conduct. There is no ego between couples because marriage has made you equal.

5. Avoid applying seniority and sense of maturity: We know men are mostly older than their wives, as such the husband must avoid reminding the wife about the age difference and avoid statements like "Even my family's last born is not your mate" or "Forget that I married you, I am not your m@te and you should regard my age". Don't remind your wife about your age and as a woman, don't tell your husband that is not talking like his age requires.

6. Transparency/Trust: Be as clear as water and make your partner understand you. Build a strong foundation of trust that takes away d0ubts about your partner. If you hear something unusual about your partner, don't be quick to react, rather inv£st!gate and talk to your partner about it. Give room for fair hearing.

7. Marital secr£cy: Marriage is like a cú|t and there are some information your partner will share with you that you are not supposed to share with outsiders no matter the urg£ to speak. Let your partner's s£cret be safe with you.

8. Financial empowerment: If you know you are not fin@ncially ready for the burd£ns of marriage, don't go into marriage yet. As a woman, no matter how rich your partner is, you should work to relieve your partner of burd£n. If your wife is richer, don't leverage on that to depend on her or make her carry the whole búrd£n.

9. Ability to compromise: Understand that you and your partner are two different people from different backgrounds and lifestyles. Therefore, be ready to adjust some of your lifestyles just to please your partner. However, don't lose yourself in the process.

10. Separation from extended family: As a couple you are a new family. You need to ensure that your parents, sisters and brothers do not interfere in your marriage. The moment you start allowing your family have a say in your marriage, you are already opening the door for pr0bl£ms. Only s£nsib|e and responsible family members should be contacted when there is a búrn!ñg issue so they can assist in resolving it and not w0rsen the situation.

11. See your partner as a newborn child: The same way you handle a child with care to avoid hur.ting the child, is the same way you should handle your partner. If you see your partner as a newborn child, there is no way you will be t£mpted to h!t your partner because you would never d@re to h!t a newborn child. Learn self contr0l because being abús!v£ makes you less of a man/woman.

12. Añg£r contr0|: Learn to contr0l your £r and do not transfer aggr£ss!on on your partner especially when your partner is not the cause of your frustr@t!on.

13. Ability to pray: Whichever religion you choose to practice, learn to pray as a couple. Make it a rule in your home that no matter what transpires between you both, you must still pray together. Every morning, place your hand on your partner's head and bless your partner. The blessings of a spouse is very strong and this helps keep the family together.

14. Have marital c0ven@nt: Marital c0ven@nt are like the rules governing your marriage that must be obeyed at all times. For example, you can make it a rule that no matter the d!sput£ you have, if you usually pray together you must still pray together. No spouse is allowed to sl£èp elsewhere aside the matrimonial b£d even when there is a quárr£|. If you usually eat together you must still eat together. This will not let d!sput£s last long between you because praying, eating and sl££ping with someone you have issues with will automatically reconcile you both. Also, discuss who can visit your home, how long they can stay and who should they inform before coming. Always remind yourself about the c0ven@nt.

15. Avoid ent!tlement m£ntal!ty: Avoid this is mine and this is yours. Build and involve your partner when making decisions. Don't see your partner as someone who is not capable of making sensible decisions or suggestions. Even a f00l has something to offer so why not your partner? Never make your partner feel like they don't know anything or are not good enough. If you feel your partner is not sm@rt, then you are also not sm@rt because if you are sm@rt, you would not have married someone who is not sm@rt. Sharpen each other!

Note: One person cannot make marriage work. It requires the efforts of both partners because marriage is like a partnership business. During dating, discuss what will affect the future of your marriage. If you can comply with these, even we lawyers will not have divorce cases to handle again. It's not like we like diss0lviñg marriages but you guys are the main problem. Please make your marriage work! 😂 Don't wait for div0rce to come up before you realize yourself.

This list is put together based on my personal marital journey and those I recommended same for and it worked for them.

02/11/2025

I was in the bathr00m this morning and wanted to b@th. I called my husband, EmmyLaw to come quickly. He came and asked what the pr0b|em was. I told him to enter and l0ck the door na.

He was wondering why but 0beyed. So I told him what I called him for and he smiled and said "You ehnnn". 😂

I said oya naw take the lead, your s£rvañt is listening to your instructions.

He stood behind m£ and said I should b£ñd d0wn and hold it h@rd. I h£ld it but I did not want to h0ld it h@rd so I don't br£ it. 🙈

He said hold it h@rd na, I did. He said, "Now, you will púsh it in and pu|| it out. Púsh it in and pú|| it out until you get what you w@nt"

Am a fast learner so I he|d it h@rd, púsh£d it in and pul|£d it out. I started doing it f@st f@st f@st and he was saying, "Ehen, good job. Hárd£r, hárd£r, hárd£r."

And then, boom, it r£léas£d immediately and he |£ft. 💃💃💃

This my husband is the perfect teacher and my number one sure p|úg when I need help.👌

Oh s0rry, I was actually talking about the dra!n@ge in the b@thr00m. I noticed it was bl0ck£d and water was not p@ssing through so he taught me how to use plung£r to m0únt pr£ssur£ on the dr@iñge and allow the re|eás£ of water. 😂😂😂

I did not want to hold the plunger h@rd so I don't br£ it.

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