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NkyLaw, Pretoria (2025)

19/07/2025

Post No. 8 being the last post for 19 July 2025

Good morning ma, mummy please I need your advice
January this year , I got accommodations issues and started living with my friend who is married. I knew that was not a permanent solution so I tried raising money to get my own apartment but to no avail.
So I started looking for someone I can squat with and pay monthly. So I met this lady on Facebook, she said she Had a self con apartment that she pays 350k per year and asked me to be paying her 20k every month. I refused I told her I don't have that kind of money and that my budget was 10k , she said 10k was too small and we later agreed on 13k.
So on February 18th I made a payment of 19500 to her which was for a month and fifteen days, but she claimed she didn't see it, I had to redo the transaction only to find out the next morning that I was debited twice.
I called for a refund for one payment , she started mumbling about it,that she will go and confirm from her bank and so on and so forth. The money I sent to her in total was 39'000
Later that day she grudgingly sent me 25k instead of 26,000.shorting 1k but I didn't mind. Note: I have not moved in, I just left one of my bag with her, but she insisted that my money has started counting the day I paid her, I said no problem

I later moved in about 10 to fifteen days later. She gave me rules that whenever her boyfriend comes around I'll have to go look for where to pass the night. I didn't say anything. She said light bill was 5k and I later found out that it was 3k and they only pay 5k on rare occasions. She said light or no light they always pump water with Gen in the compound so I was expected to contribute money for fuel. I say no problem.fast forward to when my money expired on March she insisted that I pay her 15k , she knew I had no were to go that's why she inflated the price. I still paid her cus I've gotten a job in a restaurant,I usually get tipped by customers that's how I was able to deal with transportation and feeding and my salary was just 20k. On few occasions my money goes missing in that house never to be found. I'll ask her she'll deny seeing my money.
So one day she brought clothes to me that she sells them if I'll buy . Honestly most of my clothes are back in my state so I picked 10 cloth which amounted 40k and I deposited 10k, later on I gave her 5k.
So one day when my rent for the month was almost due I sent her 10k for the clothes to balance 15k
But she started sending me messages that 10k was too small,and that she was hungry, she wanted to buy food stuff ,she wanted to treat infection, just like that I should send additional 5k, which I did and I assumed that,that was my rent for April and I'm currently owing her only 25k for the clothes.but she still kept pressuring me, because she doesn't work,it's her boyfriend that pays her bills. During this time they were having issues and he withdrew his financial assistance. I've been the one feeding the both of us.
So I told her that she should be patient or rather go ahead and sell the clothes to someone else since she needs money urgently, because I haven't worn the clothes as at then, but she refused.
So one Sunday,I came back from church to meet a third roommate in the apartment, she didn't discuss it with me, nothing nothing and we became 3. Everyday quarrel.

One day while talking to the landlord I found out that this lady pays just 200,000 naira for the apartment not the 350k she claims. Meaning I've been paying her almost x2 of the supposed amount. I felt really bad , she claimed she's helping me but she's been the one killing me at the same time. I started looking for a way out.

I borrowed money from someone and rented an apartment worth 250k and planned on paying small small. So on the 18th of April she asked when am I renewing and paying the balance 25k I told her to wait till month end,I packed my things and left without telling her anything or quarreling with her on the 22 of April. I felt cheated. She kept calling and threatening me that if I don't pay her 40,000 ( 25,000+ 15,000 for May rent because I exceeded my stay for 4days ) that she's going to arrest me.

Ma please tell me if I have a reason not to pay her this money and if my reasons is solid

19/07/2025

Post No. 7 for 19 July 2025

Please advise me ooo and don't hide my ID...by this time last year, I happily post say I don dey grow grey hair because I noticed two strands of grey hairs for front.

E don pass one year and na still the two strands I get, e no increase.🙄

Bia ndi Facebook, what did you do to my grey hairs that they are not increasing? Talk now o because I want justice for my grey hairs.😡

This is a viol.ation of my fundamental right to grow plenty grey hairs so people will know that I am older than my look.🙄 Release my grey hairs now!

19/07/2025

Post No. 6 for 19 July 2025

Good day ma please advise me .
Am a single mother of two girls I have never been married before and the father of my girls is late, so I moved to a new relationship with a solider a single father of two girls ,
We have a child together a boy 4 years old , everything was ok until during Easter period we went to visit him at his duty post , I got a house keeping job recently and I will transport myself 3 times weekly for the work , so I told him that let the children stay with him that there is nothing at home like food stuff he refused that I want to be free so I will be moving around with other men ,

I told him the gas at home has finished he gave me 4k for transportation for us to go that he will send money but I know say na lie
So I left the boy there for him and came back home and started the work,no food at home I beg people for transportation until I was paid ,
The thing is this man normally drop 30k for our upkeep for one month which is not enough that was y I left the child to look for something doing so I can support him ,
Ma this man block my line and send me a text message that he was done with me that I should move on with my life I begged and ask for forgiveness he refused my compound people beg him too but he refused
He took the boy and run to ogun state telling me bye bye that he dash me his property at home bla bla the man did not marry me .
This is 3 months now I have not seen my child if I call him with any number once he noticed am the one he will block the line , I have pleaded with him for us to make peace no avail I even report him to his family he refused to listen to anything am afraid of not having a home again is this a curse or what why is my own different ?

Ma the good news is that I don't know how it happened but I heard they hold there in ogun state that where is the mother of the child , they want to take the child from him so he called me that I should move over
Ma am afraid of going there I have been surviving with my girls without him because he go about telling people he is not the father of the girls that he is tired of taking care of someone child am doing house keeping to help myself for now am afraid of moving with him again and at the same time I want to take care of my son and keep my kids together I don't have what it takes to take care of 3kids alone for now ,
I don't know what to do advice me this man lie with my name in the barracks that I demanded for 100k for feeding for a month which is not true my word doesn't count people believe him because he is a soldier
Ma please advise me hide my identity and no insult please

19/07/2025

Post No. 5 for 19 July 2025

Good evening ma
please hide my identity i want to tell you the story of my life
i am a single mother of 2, after years of separating with my kids Daddy. i met this Man online in. year 2020, he is from my State and Same town Ondo,, he.is also a divorcee with 2 grown children. he live and base in the US. he told me about his ex which also based in the US and said he wanted a woman from his town to settle down with, He told me he prayed about me that am the chosen woman for him to marry and i did the same, they told me, he is good for me to marry. He. asked me the last time i had S$x i told him and he make me promised him not to have anything. to do with another Man that when he get back he will take me to hospital. for check up, i promised him my. body belongs to only him.

To cut the long story short, i have been waiting for this Man for the past 5 years. he never showed up, each time he is preparing to come, he. always has an excuse to change it.
Lets i forget, he made me change my name. to his name and mandatory it for. me to change my status to married on facebook saying it will scared Men away that am married, been a very supportive Man i do as he say and changed my name in the court and published it on news paper without marrying to him. few months ago, i notice some changes that he always make an excuse not to call me, if i called, he wont pick , he wont reply my messages. i asked him the problem, he said it is nature of his Job now, he hardly have time for me. This is a man that still told me last week that he is coming to Nigeria purposely to pay my dowry. But in my mind, my instinct is telling me somethings are not right, each time we had little quarrel he will blocked me, i reported him to my Dad because he do call my Dad, he told my Dad that for him not to get angry at me that is why he do blocked me, he even told my Dad that he is coming home to marry me.

We. are both using 2 facebook Account, he blocked me from both sides, then he later unblocked only one, which. i dont have access to it the other one, so. i opened another account and check his account , lo.and behold, he posted a picture of him and his ex girlfriend in the US and people are congratulating him., i was so shocked that i started crying from a public car i entered while going to my place of work because i checked it this morning. In the afternoon , i saw his missed calls and i pretended like nothing happened when we finally talked, i ask him about his other facebook account, he said they have hacked it This is a man my children are already calling Daddy, they loved him so much because he treat them like his own, thesame Mann i loved. and respected. and for 5 years plus that. i have been waiting for him, i had. nothing with. another man, i stay faithful. and 100%. loyal to him Am totally confused ma😭 Please advice me. Is there legal action i can take for a man that promised me marriage and make me change my name in law court and i stayed loyal to for the past 5 years. The woman senior him with 4 years, note she is not the mother of his children but his ex girlfriend.

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Post No. 4 for 19 July 2025

Good evening,pls hide my id, I did court, traditional and church wedding with my husband, he later abandoned me when I was pregnant for our second child and has been living with different women now he got married recently, he stays in the east while I stay in Lagos . How do I sue him for bigamy? Must I travel to the east for that? The court wedding was done in Lagos here

19/07/2025

Post No. 3 for 19 July 2025

It's another season for stocking up crayfish. I usually target buying crayfish in bulk between June-July of a particular year and consume it for at least 2 years.

The last time I bought crayfish was in July 2022 and it's time to restock for another 2 years or more.

I and my three sisters have been monitoring the price and the market day and today seems favourable so we got a basket of crayfish for ₦265,000 at Oyingbo market, Lagos and share according to need as shown in the pictures.

A basket contains 32 paints and if you divide it, that's about ₦8,300 for a paint but in the market, a paint goes for ₦14,000 - ₦16,000 depending on location. This is way cheaper compared to buying in paints.

We have shared the basket according to need and as usual I took half basket so I don't have to buy crayfish until June-July 2028. 😂

For storage, I pack them in bags and store in the freezer.
Oya, how much is a paint of crayfish in your location?

19/07/2025

Post No. 2 for 19 July 2025...Feedback

Good evening ma, hope all is going fine. I have come to return gratitude to all the teaching, lessons learnt from your wonderful page. And also update you on my recent move towards the answer to my cry. After going to Human Right, I was advised to go to FIDA, currently I can now have access to my child, number of days of visit was signed by both I and my baby's father. Currently he have custody of the child since he said he's financially and psychologically okay to take care of a 2 yrs child considering the fact he's been with the child for 4months (never knew it was all planned out by his parents to take away the child from me) am on visits for now and will start co-parenting after 6 months.

Ma at least I have my sanity back, though still bat.tling emotional tra.uma, am seeing a psychologist recently, am healing bit by bit, trying to find my feet back. But I missed my baby though they suggest I can leave the child since he has a nanny and the father is financially capable, while I find my feet quickly, then go for co-parenting.

19/07/2025

Post No. 1 for 19 July 2025

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What are you waiting for? Rush to the comments' section and join the WhatsApp group for more details and place your orders. 🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️

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18/07/2025

Post No. 9 being the last post for 18 July 2025

What does the law say about eating beans and drinking garri ijebu for dinner?

Everybody come and eat o...I am begging now so I will not bite my tongue again. 😂

18/07/2025

Post No. 8 for 18 July 2025

This weekend now, my innocent brother with good intentions go invite the love of him life out for a date and when he reach there, he go see the love of him life as she dey enter with entourage wey include her friend, her sister and her neighbour for a date wey supposed be for two people.😭

My brother, if you invite a babe wey you like out for a date and she carry friend or sister join body, just know say she just want chop you as her maga. Them go chop you and still carry takeaway.

Abeg no shame and no form, just tell her say na only you and her you fit buy something for because you no plan for three or more.

If she want, make she buy for her squad or they share her own or vex go home.

E no good say you go carry babe go on a date and she and her friends go dey chop while you dey drink bottle water. 🤣🤣🤣

Aunty, if you no like my brother abeg tell am. No need to chop am before you tell am. Bikonu!

18/07/2025

Post No. 7 for 18 July 2025

Good evening mummy nk, God bless in all you are doing for us your followers.. ma'am I'm here for an advice concerning something that is bothering me.... I'm in a relationship with my guy ,we are just 1yr+ but I must tell you this is one of the sweetest relationship I've ever been...the issue here is that we've been talking for a year cos he is not in Nigeria, he just came back and this is our first time we are spending time with each other, whenever we go he doesn't want me to act like his girlfriend like he just wants plp to notice him , again he do pick women calls in my presence and when I talk he will say he doesn't have anything to do with them, he doesn't want me to get close to his phone and meanwhile he has surround himself around me and have access to my phone as well...

When I start complaining he said am bunking him and he is not married yet... We have gone out one time and he sent his friend to get him a lady contact cos she has big yansh ( I find out through his friend phone) like he parade himself single and treating as his serious date ,, always saying women are to be submissive and when I tell him men are to be submissive too he will say am challenging him... And we're both in serious relationship that's he is planning to see my plp... always warn me never to touch his phone... so my question is am doing too much or I should calm down cos it's really eating me up ... He spent so much for me and he be like are you lacking anything.that b4 he meant me he has friends and life ... so please I want to hear from you ma'am what is your advice for me 🙏

so sorry for my long post ma'am..and again I'm a single mom of one he knows about it and he is doing his fatherly duty 100% he is saying once he gets married to me that the child will answer his name... Is it proper for me to allow that ? Currently she is answering my native name cos the father said nothing concern him anything about the child this is 7yrs now I don't know if he's alive or not we have all moved on ....so mummy please give your advice cos I don't want to make a mistake in marriage and changing my daughter name to his won't it affect me tomorrow...God bless you ma'am 🙏

18/07/2025

Post No. 6 for 18 July 2025

Hello, good morning ma. I really appreciate what you have been doing for the community. I am a military police officer trying to be civil and not take laws into my hands. I met a lady from Abia state when I was serving in Port Harcourt and we started dating. Later I was transferred to Bayelsa and I left my things in my apartment for her and took only my wears because my rent had not expired and this was in 2022.

In September 2022 I went back to Port Harcourt and saw her and returned back to Bayelsa and we used to talk. Later she called me and said she is not feeling fine so I asked her to go to the hospital for test and she said she is pregnant and I took responsibility.

I extended the rent for 6 months so she can stay there. I told her I don't want to marry her because of some things I noticed about her but I will be responsible for them. I did all that by providing food stuffs and money regularly. We discussed co-parenting and I was ready to do anything to assist her because she use to say I should not leave her emptyhanded.

Later I rented a self contain for her to be more comfortable and enrolled her to be receiving medical care from my health insurance as my family. I even followed her for antenatal when I visit her.

When she put to bed, I took 3 months leave to be with her and support her and her mother also came to take care of her. To cut the story short, I started noticing this guy that visits her and she said he is her bestie and I freely engage the guy and talk when he comes around because I know I was not going to marry her so no need being jealous. I bought iPad for my daughter and do everything a responsible father will do for them.

Recently, the guy called me that we need to talk, that he is sorry and take all the blame but I should call my baby mama first and listen to what she wants to tell me. I called her and she told me that she wants to tell me something but does not know how to say it and how I will react and that the child is not my child. The child will be two years old in two months time. I was shocked and devastated. For the past 4 days now I have been crying till now.

I asked who is the father and she said it's the guy and I asked if he knows, and she said he knows all these while and yet they made me spend and love a child that is not mine. I even gave her money to start a business, another 150k to start POS business that she didn't do and send money monthly for upkeep and other needs. She has been enjoying my medical insurance cover with the child since she got pregnant. She will qu.arrel me to provide for the child and also request for money.

She said she was not pregnant when she told me she was pregnant in September 2022 that she got pregnant in November 2022 for the guy but lied and pinned it on me because she loves me and doesn't want me out of her life but the guy knows that he is responsible for the pregnancy because she told him and the guy said she should ab.ort it because he is jobless and still schooling.

Though I am married now, I married last year but I told my wife that I have a child on the way so she can decide whether to marry me and she agreed and support me in taking care of the child by reminding me to call my baby mama and she even visited her.

The child's birth certificate is with me and she bears my name. It took one year before I went to get birth certificate for her because she was not ready to go get the birth certificate knowing that I was not the father of the girl.

Please, what do I need to do? Which offices do I need to contact to address this? I am going to the police to report and also report to my office and I am ready for a DNA. I really need your advice on what to do and I know you don't work with emotions because I am a top fan of your group. Thank you and God bless you. Please help me post so I can hear from the community too.

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