05/03/2016
THE ADULTERER
Cheating can only be acceptable if the person who is guilty for the infidelity shows remorse and a willingness to work on the broken relationship. In an ideal world, someone who loves you, will not cheat on you, but this is the real world where affairs happen and that can be good or bad, depending on how you and your partner respond to it. When your partner continues cheating, feels no remorse for it, creates excuses for his behaviour when he is caught and does not make any effort to work on protecting you and your relationship from the affair, then that’s your cue to leave. Constant infidelity is emotional abuse, so don’t be fooled into thinking you can change him because you will end up an emotional wreck and lacking confidence in yourself. A partner who cheats can change, but only for someone who they feel is worthy of their commitment and faithfulness.
THE ABUSER
This is another non-negotiable factor that is known, but often ignored. Abuse can be physical, emotional, mental and sexual, so be alert if your partner shows signs of either. When it comes to physical abuse, someone who hits you once will most likely do it over and over again as your self-esteem continues to decline and he gains control over your life and mind. The power is always in your hands because before he gains control of your mind, you can overpower him by leaving at the first sign of abusive behaviour.
THE MOOCHER
Previously known as the scrub, this partner does not and will never contribute financially to the relationship. Whether they have the financial ability of paying for dates, contributing towards groceries or simply buying you a gift, the moocher continues to rely on you for everything. Dating someone like this is just like adopting a grown baby because you will continue paying and they will continue accepting – without even feeling guilty about it. It is okay to spoil your partner once in a while and even contribute equally, but when you’re the only one financing the relationship, it’s time to leave.
THE DRIFTER
This partner has no definite life direction at all. The one month he is a painter trying to showcase his masterpieces at the local gallery and the next he is a businessman hustling for capital for his next venture. He doesn’t have a stable place to live or long-term friends and is constantly everywhere, doing everything with everyone. This person has nothing going for him and shows little ambition to attain success and some sort of security. You will never find security, protection or any type of commitment with someone like this, so save yourself some time and abandon ship.
THE ADULT BABY
It is okay to love your family and put them before anything and everyone else, but when your partner is more loyal to his family than you, then it’s time to leave. Should your relationship be long term, then you should have established enough to trust each other and take priority in each other’s lives in the absence of children. So, if that is not your reality, then it is a clear sign that his family will be meddling in your relationship for the rest of your life – with his permission
