20/07/2025
WISE WORDS FROM AMB FRANK MUTUBILA
Our pride often drives us to mistreat others, especially those who cannot fight back. We target the defenseless, the maid, the garden boy, the street vendor, the employee with no power, believing that belittling them makes us stronger or superior. But life does not work that way. Every word we speak in anger, every act of cruelty, plants seeds that grow into curses we carry ourselves. What we do to others always circles back to us.
When we mistreat others, we are not punishing them, we are weakening ourselves. Bitterness is a silent thief, it eats away our joy and steals the blessings meant for us. We think we are putting someone in their place, but in reality, we are pouring our blessings into their empty cup. Cruelty does not leave our hands until it has taken something precious from us.
The irony of life is that those we look down on often rise higher than we ever imagined. The maid we scold becomes the mother of children who excel and achieve greatness. The garden boy we mock raises a family that is honorable and admired. The marketers we insult produce the doctors, engineers, and leaders of tomorrow. Life has a way of compensating those who are wronged. In trying to bring them down, we unintentionally give them the fuel to rise.
Being a boss is not a passport to mistreat your subordinates. That office once had people who sat in the same seat you do now, people who today regret not using their influence to lift others when they had the chance. That business you run was once led by someone who was far more successful, but in the end, their regret was never about losing money, it was about how they treated people. Can we, for once, choose to be normal human beings, to lead without arrogance, to correct without humiliation, and to guide without destroying.
Misery loves company. The more we dwell on anger and resentment, the more we attract people who share the same bitterness. We live in circles of gossip, envy, and revenge, thinking we are moving forward, but in truth, we are standing still, or worse, sinking. Meanwhile, those we tried to hurt are freed by forgiveness and gratitude, walking into opportunities that bitterness will never allow us to see.
Life’s cycle is clear, what we give out always returns. Kindness multiplies, but cruelty destroys from within. The people who once hurt us often find peace through regret and growth, while we remain stuck, still trying to punish them, selling our own blessings without knowing it.
The one who throws dirt loses ground. True strength is not in humiliating others, but in rising above the need to do so. Forgiveness is not weakness, it is freedom. He who holds onto anger is like one who drinks poison, expecting another to die.
To live fully, we must end the cycle of bitterness. Lift those who are down, even when they once hurt you. Speak life where you could speak harm. Because life, in its quiet way, always rewards the hand that heals rather than the one that wounds. We forget that every pain we bring to someone fades under the mercy of God, remember that nothing lasts forever except the word of God.
