12/06/2026
If you are single and hoping to marry someday, please discourage your partner from keeping a "bestie" of the opposite s*x. If he or she tries to gaslight you or call you an insecure person, let them label you with whatever they like. Stand your ground.
The reality is that most married men and women who end up cheating on their spouses with their besties once termed them as "genuine, sincere, and completely loyal friends"—until boundaries crossed and it turned into something else entirely.
If you are lucky, you will catch them early. If you are unlucky, they will cheat on you under your own roof until the end of time. And for the men, that "harmless" male bestie your wife keeps around might eventually turn out to be the biological father of the children you are sweating to train.
If you can, do yourself a huge favor: discourage your partner from keeping besties of the opposite s*x.
An opposite-s*x bestie in a committed relationship is just a backup partner waiting for a weak moment.
You cannot convince me that you love your spouse completely when you have an emotional emergency exit button named 'my best friend' outside your home.
When you share your deep secrets, your marital frustrations, and your late-night vulnerability with another man or woman, you are watering a seed of intimacy that belongs only to your spouse.
Fire does not look for permission before it burns; it just needs proximity.
Stop playing with matches in your relationship and calling it 'maturity.'
If they value a casual friendship more than your emotional peace of mind, they are not ready for marriage.
I’ll pause this sermon here.
~ Nya Ndo
