14/09/2025
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14.09.2025
Zambian Women’s Alcohol Problem is Our Country’s New Catastrophe
By Daimone Siulapwa
In the 1980s and 1990s, it was almost impossible to find women sitting comfortably in a bar or pub. Maybe in shebeens here and there, but certainly not at the counter of any bar.
Women who drank publicly were confined mostly to nightclubs, and society rightly regarded those night life women as exceptions, not the rule.
Forty years down the line, the picture is shocking. Today, every pub is flooded with women and many of them married, who take up the bar counter unashamedly.
The mix in bars today is a disturbing cocktail, prostitutes, side chicks, college students, divorcees, widows, single mothers, and even respectable housewives who have abandoned their homes.
The result? Men are confused. Nobody knows who is who anymore. Boundaries are blurred, respect is gone, and the consequences are catastrophic, if you know, you know.
The most devastating part is this: the very women who are meant to be the guiding force in families, the moral compasses of homes, are now drowning themselves in alcohol.
They are drinking more than their fathers ever did. And while they are busy at the counter, their children are being raised by thier maids, by TikTok, Facebook, WhatsApp, and the unforgiving streets.
Then suddenly, your 18-year-old daughter comes home pregnant. Suddenly, your son is caught on video, naked, disgracing himself for all the world to see.
And you wonder, “How did this happen?” You thought paying school fees, buying expensive phones, and sending them to private schools was enough. It was not. What they needed was your presence. What they needed was your life lessons, your guidance, your discipline and not a drunk mother at the bar counter.
Let’s face it: this is no longer an individual problem. It is a national catastrophe. Married women are competing with drunk men in taverns. Mothers are trading their dignity for beer bottles.
The home is abandoned. Children are growing up without values, without order, without respect. The family system is collapsing before our very eyes.
So, to the women of Zambia, I say this with no apology: *sober up.* If you love your children, spend less time in the bar and more time in your home. Married women, stay away from taverns. *Drunk men will never respect you when you evade thier bars.
If you want to relax, go to a proper restaurant. Sit at a table. *Guard your dignity.* Because the truth is this: alcohol does not raise children.
And to those who don’t listen, when your daughter becomes the next teenage pregnancy statistic, when your son becomes a drunkard like you or Ju**ie, when your child’s naked body is trending on social media, it won’t be bad luck. It will be the price of your negligence.
We don’t want the next generation of Zambians to grow up knowing that their mothers as the women that spent thier time with the *“Jonny solye ubwalis” of the bar.* We want them to know mothers who guided them, disciplined them, and raised them into responsible adults.
This catastrophe can be stopped. But it begins with women choosing family over alcohol, dignity over shame, and responsibility over recklessness. Zambia cannot survive if its mothers are lost in the bottle.
Daimone Siulapwa is a seasoned Political Analyst and Consultant, as well as a dedicated governance and social media activist. He is also a strong advocate for citizens’ empowerment and tribal unity. Comments, [email protected]