03/10/2026
Most of us were taught that our value increases with our usefulness.
So we over-function.
We anticipate needs.
We smooth tension.
We carry more than our share.
Not because we’re weak.
Because we’re conditioned.
And over time, usefulness and worth start to blur.
Self-care helps us recover from that exhaustion…
But the deeper shift is learning to make decisions that don’t exhaust you in the first place.
That’s what I mean by the Self-Choice Standard- the practice of choosing yourself in real time.
If you see yourself in this, drop a 🪞 below.
And if you’re curious about the small group I’m opening to explore this together, the link is in my bio 😘.