06/05/2026
Truthfully I didnāt think Iād share this here. It might get taken the wrong way. But after getting comments and messages on a different platform, thanking me for expressing exactly how others feel, for not shying away from this - I need to share it here too.
This is not a āpity meā post. It is an unfortunate reality that so many loss parents experience.
We often find ourselves completely alone while navigating grief, almost acting as trailblazers for our support people and others who unfortunately will come after us.
Iām sad for myself. Iām disappointed.
The support Iām expected to give because I know what I should have received but didnāt is a huge weight to carry. Because while no. I absolutely do NOT want anyone else to experience it in the way that we did, and anything I can do to prevent further heartbreak is important because again - I did not have that. But on the other hand, if I had to do it alone why shouldnāt someone else? Itās a tricky space to be in, a complicated set of coexisting emotions.
Will I continue doing what I have the capacity for, to support others better than how I was supported?
ABSO-fkin-LUTELY.
But both things can be true, together.
If you take away 1 thing from this video, be a good support person.
Even years later.
You never know who needs it the most.
