08/27/2026
Part : 1
Me [21F], Boyfriend [25M] of 3mo has lied about being adopted for (presumably) over ten years. Would I be nuts for staying with him?
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I've suspected his story ever since I met him, but I thought I was being unnecessarily skeptical/questioning of someones "traumatic" upbringing to have made a big deal of it. Until yesterday.
We were visiting his parents and I was making chit chat. As parents are prone to do, his mother started talking about when he was a kid. Which was odd because he told me he came to this country as 11, and was adopted by these people at 12.
I didn't call it out, but I asked some questions to verify for myself, like "Haha, wow, how old was he then?" and such. Boyfriend has obviously gone very, very quiet as we're talking. We had to leave shortly after, and I wait for him to make the first move when we're in the car. Which he does.
"I hate it when they do that, they fabricate my mothers stories and tell them as if it were their own."
"Where did they get the stories from?"
"Her diary."
"Where is that diary now?"
"In a bank box in the capital."
"Why would they do that?"
"Because they don't want to tell people I'm adopted."
"No point in lying to me though, since I would obviously have been told."
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