Mohamed Rima

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08/09/2026

From a longer video in my private Facebook group titled: Signs you're ready to move on again

25/08/2026

Don't share the entire documentary of your life with strangers.

How Abusers IsolateAbusers isolate slowly and strategically using coercive control. The goal is to remove your support s...
25/08/2026

How Abusers Isolate

Abusers isolate slowly and strategically using coercive control. The goal is to remove your support system so you feel like you have no way out. By the time victims recognise what’s happening, there’s often no one left to reach out to.

Why Narcissistic Personalities Do This

People with strong narcissistic traits rely on control to regulate their internal world.
Isolation gives them:
• uninterrupted access to you
• less accountability
• fewer people who might challenge their behaviour
• more emotional dependence
Triangulation, jealousy, and “us against the world” narratives aren’t romance, they’re strategies rooted in dominance.

How They Slowly Isolate You

Isolation rarely starts loud. It begins quietly:
• discouraging you from talking to certain friends
• creating tension with your parents and family
• making you feel guilty for having support
• criticising people who care about you
• rewarding you when you cut off your family and friends
• framing themselves as the only one who “truly understands you”
• Using conflict or silent treatment right before or after you spend time with supportive people, so you eventually avoid seeing them just to prevent the punishment
These small shifts accumulate until your world revolves around them.

Rebuilding Safety

Isolation is designed to make you feel powerless but connection is what restores clarity.
Rebuilding support, speaking to safe people, and naming the pattern breaks the spell.
If possible, maintain relationships with safe people, even quietly. Staying connected, in any form you can manage, helps protect your clarity and keeps isolation from taking full hold.
You don’t have to stay small to keep someone else comfortable.
Your world gets bigger again the moment you step toward people who make you feel safe.
Isolation is the tactic.
Connection is the antidote.

24/08/2026

How to prevent emotional enmeshment and manage limerence when meeting someone new.

Time Doesn't Heal Contempt. It Compounds It.Contempt doesn’t fade with time. It’s built from years of unresolved resentm...
23/08/2026

Time Doesn't Heal Contempt. It Compounds It.

Contempt doesn’t fade with time.
It’s built from years of unresolved resentment, unspoken hurt, and emotional neglect.

Every moment of feeling dismissed or devalued quietly deteriorates the foundation of the relationship.

Contempt is never sudden. It’s always accumulated injury.

Resentment is feelings of unfairness. It says: "I want justice. I want to be understood."

Contempt is feelings of disgust. It says: "You are worthless. What's the point anymore."

How Contempt Slowly Forms

Contempt grows through repeated relational ruptures:
• Every micro‑rejection
• Every defensive response to a problem you raise
• Every criticism without repair
• Every apology that never comes
• Every moment you felt lonely beside your partner
• Every time you were unseen, unheard, or minimised
• Every conflict that wasn’t repaired

These moments don’t disappear. They stack, and the relationship begins to corrode from the inside. Contempt is like sulfuric acid to the relational bond.

Why Time Makes It Worse

When injuries go unaddressed, partners stop feeling safe with each other.

Trust weakens.
Warmth fades.
Respect deteriorates.
The emotional bond becomes fragile.

Time doesn’t neutralise contempt, it deepens the wound and makes partners interpret each other through a lens of frustration, hopelessness, and emotional fatigue. Even neutral or positive interactions get interpreted through this lens. That's why apologies and gestures don’t work when contempt is strong.

Unrepaired hurt becomes the story of the relationship.

How to Prevent Contempt From Taking Over

Contempt is preventable but only through intentional repair:
• Address issues early instead of letting resentment accumulate
• Repair after conflict even if the issue isn’t fully solved
• Validate feelings so your partner doesn’t feel alone in their experience
• Take accountability for your part without defensiveness
• Turn toward bids for connection instead of ignoring them
• Have regular weekly check‑ins to clear emotional debris before it hardens into contempt

Contempt is the number one predictor of divorce.
Contempt is the result of neglect.
Connection is the result of consistent, small acts of emotional maturity.

Heavy truth. An emotionally unsafe partner doesn’t just hurt feelings, they change the entire way the body responds.When...
20/08/2026

Heavy truth. An emotionally unsafe partner doesn’t just hurt feelings, they change the entire way the body responds.

When someone feels threatened by you, their reactions aren’t dramatic or exaggerated. They’re protective.

If you want to build safety, start by becoming someone their nervous system doesn’t have to defend against.

I recently posted about triangulation in a marriage context. This one focuses on triangulation in the early stages of ge...
18/08/2026

I recently posted about triangulation in a marriage context. This one focuses on triangulation in the early stages of getting to know someone.

When choosing a partner, choose someone who doesn’t use comparison as connection. It’s one of the earliest signs of narcissistic traits and future abuse and a tactic designed to create insecurity rather than genuine closeness.

Po*******hy addiction creates a different kind of s*xual disconnection, one shaped by secrecy, avoidance, and years of l...
15/08/2026

Po*******hy addiction creates a different kind of s*xual disconnection, one shaped by secrecy, avoidance, and years of learned patterns.

When the husband denies the issue, the wife is left carrying the impact alone: the betrayal, the self‑blame, the confusion, the loss of trust.

Talking about s*x in this context isn’t simple, but it is necessary. Honest conversation, clear boundaries, and emotional safety are the first steps toward understanding what’s happening beneath the surface and what healing might require.

Note: this post isn't intended for people in relationships with perpetrators of abuse.

Many couples don’t talk about s*x with each other. They don’t talk about what they need, like, dislike, want more of, t...
11/08/2026

Many couples don’t talk about s*x with each other.
They don’t talk about what they need, like, dislike, want more of, timing, refusal, or initiation because it feels uncomfortable, taboo, or they worry it will create tension.

But couples who do talk about s*x tend to have better s*xual connection.

Open conversations reduce anxiety, increase clarity, and make intimacy feel safer for both partners.

When s*x hasn’t been discussed for years, chemistry naturally drops, misunderstandings grow, and initiating can feel risky especially if there have been many past rejections.

Learning to talk about s*x is not awkward, it’s emotional maturity, and it’s one of the strongest predictors of long‑term s*xual satisfaction and relationship stability.

*xtalk

Men, flooding your ex with cringy romantic messages every night, telling her how much you’ve changed overnight, apologis...
08/08/2026

Men, flooding your ex with cringy romantic messages every night, telling her how much you’ve changed overnight, apologising on repeat, rocking up at her door every night unannounced crying saying you can’t live without her after she’s told you to stop isn’t romantic. It’s disrespect and predatory behaviour. It's disrespect to her boundaries, her feelings, her space, her right to breathe without you in her ear.

This is text book love bombing. After a separation or divorce, love bombing isn’t about love, it’s about control. You’re trying to overwhelm her emotionally so she drops her guard and comes back. It’s a manipulation tactic dressed up as “I’m fighting for us babe but you're the one breaking the family now, not me or my past abuse and cheating.”

If you do this, here's what i want you to know: She doesn’t feel pulled closer. She feels pushed further away. She hates it. She sees straight through it.

Do you know how she knows you’re full of crap? The second your love bombing doesn’t work, the moment she says “no” you flip your s**t. You crack it. You punish her. You pull child support. You stop seeing the kids. You stop sticking to the parenting plan. You weaponise the kids to hurt her. You start a smear campaign by victimising yourself to her family and friends.

That’s not heartbreak, accountability, or remorse.
That’s narcissistic behaviour.

If you’re doing this, you’re not proving your love. You’re proving exactly why she left.

To the men who are genuinely heartbroken and taken accountability after divorce, I get it. I know that pain. You’re not trying to manipulate anyone. You’re just trying to make sense of losing someone you built a life with. If you want any chance of reconciling, the path isn’t flooding her phone or pushing past her boundaries or showing up at her door unannounced. It’s slowing down, respecting her space, working on yourself, be a respectful coparent, and letting your actions speak louder than your panic.

Real change isn’t in the messages or your words. It’s in your behaviour.

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