08/27/2026
Sometimes I sit back and think… if something ever happened to me, I just pray there would be someone willing to step up and take care of my kids the way I do. 🥺❤️
People don’t realize what it really takes to raise FOUR kids. One is now in college, one is in high school, one is our niece who we’ve stepped up to raise and she’s also in high school, and of course we have our 7-year-old baby girl who still depends on us for everything. ❤️
They need cars, laptops, gas money, food, clothes, school expenses, a roof over their heads, emotional support, guidance, love, and SO much more. Raising kids doesn’t stop at just putting food on the table.
What hurts me is knowing that for years we’ve received little to no help from their mother or that side of their family. This has been going on since they were around 12 and 13 years old. I stepped up as their stepmom and did what needed to be done because I love them. I never asked for anything. Not a dollar. Not recognition. NOTHING. I treated them like my own because, in my heart, they ARE mine. ❤️
But as they get older, life gets more expensive, and sometimes I wonder… how can someone go on living their life knowing their children need things and never think to help? How do you make sure you’re good while leaving someone else to carry the responsibility of raising your children?
I’m not writing this to judge anybody. I’m writing it because I’m tired. My heart is huge, and sometimes having such a big heart feels like both a blessing and a curse. I’ve given so much without expecting anything in return, but there are days when I feel like breaking down because being the person who ALWAYS steps up gets heavy.
Sometimes I feel like being so nice has caused me to be used and taken advantage of. And maybe that’s why I’ve learned to stop caring so much about everybody else and start protecting my own peace.
But one thing about me I’ll NEVER stop showing up for these kids. Whether I gave birth to them or not, I chose to love them, protect them, provide for them, and be there for them. They didn’t ask for any of this, and they deserve to know what it feels like to have someone in their corner EVERY SINGLE TIME. 💯❤️
I know I can’t be the only stepmom, dad, grandma, auntie, uncle, or guardian carrying responsibilities that someone else walked away from.
Am I the only one who deals with this type of stuff? Because some days this s**t gets HEAVY. 😔💔